Are you a worrier? Do you tend to go to the dark places far too often and far too easily – think about everyday-life and inconsequential matters—and stay stuck there?
How do you know if you have this tendency? Here are a few questions:
* Do you frequently skip to the most catastrophic version of events in your mind?
* Do you often rehearse things that upset you? “Rehearsing” is different from “venting.” Venting means we get stuff off our chests and feel a sense of clarity afterwards. Rehearsing means that we repeat the same story over and over-and that we have the same emotional reaction every time.
* Do you frequently worry about things that have already happened?
* Do you worry a lot about work when you are at home?
* Does your worry sometimes make you so exhausted that you are too tired to take action on the issue?
You Need a Break
If you answered yes to these questions, I’d like to give you a gentle suggestion: take a break from worry. Take a vacation from anxiety. Yes, you read that correctly. I’m not going to give you a bunch of work to do to improve yourself. I’m going to ask you to let go for a little while. Do what you’d do on vacation-put it aside for a little while.
Don’t know what I could possibly be talking about? Here are some examples of vacation from anxiety:
* If you worry about work when you are at home, make it illegal. That means, if you catch yourself thinking about something that happened during a meeting while you’re in the shower, say to yourself “I’m on vacation until I go back into work tomorrow, so I’m not going to think about it.”
* When you’re at home at night, no talk about work (or whatever concerns you) is allowed.
* Be on vacation in your own town. When you come home from a long day of work and are tempted to drop into your chair and watch TV, remind yourself that you are on vacation. Think of something fun to do — whether it’s taking a walk, sitting outside on the patio and grilling dinner, or playing a game. My husband and I bought badminton and boule sets and started playing after dinner in the park every night.