My DIL's mother is also a Toxic Person, and doesn't really like anyone but herself, and no one likes her. She tried to intimidate my son, but learned the hard way that wasn't going to happen. She never has anything good to say about her daughter and can't stand it when my son defends my DIL. My poor DIL said she didn't know what good family relations were like until she met our family.
Some people are simply so unhappy with life and have such low self-esteem that they have to lash out at the people who are closest to them. Nothing pleases such a person, and no one wants to try, after a while. It's particularly hard when it's your own mother on the attack. But, I think your in-law probably resents being replaced in her son's life by your lovely daughter; she can't control him, any more.
I worry about your grandson, though. I hope your daughter and SIL can teach him that not everyone is as negative as "Gramma." The person who needs therapy is her, and she should be going with your son so that the psychologist can mediate what they need to work out. Otherwise, she's going to keep up her bad behavior.
Just keep being the loving example of a grandmother that you are so that your grandson learns what a grandma should be like.
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My DIL's mother is also a Toxic Person, and doesn't really like anyone but herself, and no one likes her. She tried to intimidate my son, but learned the hard way that wasn't going to happen. She never has anything good to say about her daughter and can't stand it when my son defends my DIL. My poor DIL said she didn't know what good family relations were like until she met our family.
Some people are simply so unhappy with life and have such low self-esteem that they have to lash out at the people who are closest to them. Nothing pleases such a person, and no one wants to try, after a while. It's particularly hard when it's your own mother on the attack. But, I think your in-law probably resents being replaced in her son's life by your lovely daughter; she can't control him, any more.
I worry about your grandson, though. I hope your daughter and SIL can teach him that not everyone is as negative as "Gramma." The person who needs therapy is her, and she should be going with your son so that the psychologist can mediate what they need to work out. Otherwise, she's going to keep up her bad behavior.
Just keep being the loving example of a grandmother that you are so that your grandson learns what a grandma should be like.
Just my humble opinion.
March 27, 2010 - 4:11amThis Comment
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