Thanks for sharing your story. I wanted to comment on your post as well since my 7 year relationship was a deal breaker when it came to the kid question.
I am not sure if anyone is really ready for a life changing experience as having children. I have a neighbor that wants kids so bad, she tells her husband to lay down when she is ovulating. I think that takes the fun out of trying but I guess everyone has their own experiences.
Anyhow, I wanted to share with you that I had to leave my relationship since there was such turmoil about the question. Don't get me wrong there were other motives involved in the separation. I think for my next relationship, I will be sure that we are both on the same page when it comes to children or we may both be unsure if we want to have children and maybe make up our minds later.
I completely understand the turmoil about the question. There is one thing I do know though, that I would never change anything about the relationship I have with my Mother as I said before. There is such a bond there that no one can take the place of. I think if I chose not to have children, that would be my worst loss. Not to have what I have with my Mom.
Is it fear of the unknown? Is it the loss of freedom that we fear? The time consuming nature of having kids? The ability to go to the grocery store without a kid screaming? I have put a lot of thought into my biological clock and all the above scare me. I am completely afraid of the unknown although not so much about change. What would my life be like with a child? Hum!!!
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Thanks for sharing your story. I wanted to comment on your post as well since my 7 year relationship was a deal breaker when it came to the kid question.
I am not sure if anyone is really ready for a life changing experience as having children. I have a neighbor that wants kids so bad, she tells her husband to lay down when she is ovulating. I think that takes the fun out of trying but I guess everyone has their own experiences.
Anyhow, I wanted to share with you that I had to leave my relationship since there was such turmoil about the question. Don't get me wrong there were other motives involved in the separation. I think for my next relationship, I will be sure that we are both on the same page when it comes to children or we may both be unsure if we want to have children and maybe make up our minds later.
I completely understand the turmoil about the question. There is one thing I do know though, that I would never change anything about the relationship I have with my Mother as I said before. There is such a bond there that no one can take the place of. I think if I chose not to have children, that would be my worst loss. Not to have what I have with my Mom.
Is it fear of the unknown? Is it the loss of freedom that we fear? The time consuming nature of having kids? The ability to go to the grocery store without a kid screaming? I have put a lot of thought into my biological clock and all the above scare me. I am completely afraid of the unknown although not so much about change. What would my life be like with a child? Hum!!!
September 20, 2008 - 9:26amThis Comment
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