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I had no problem when the boys moved out on their own. My mom always said it takes 3X before the move becomes final - and it sure did! I was happy to buy kitchen utensils, towels and things to help them get settled in.

My DH felt anxiety and had a hard time letting go. Then, when our daughter moved out, he went slightly off the wall. I miss her company, but she comes over every weekend - because I'm her running coach - to go for our group training runs. DH is being the protective dad, and I can't blame him for feeling that way toward our only daughter. As the weekend grill master, he still cooks for the whole brood and goes into a sort of depression if the kids don't show up on time.

I rather like having the house to myself, and I have to admit feeling a bit imposed upon when our younger son suddenly pops over to camp out on the sofa while he does his laundry, lol!

Parents need to learn to let go. We have to do it so many times - the first step, the first day of school, the first date, high school graduation, going away to college, the fiance, whatever. As parents, we're supposed to be preparing ourselves, and our children, for letting go. Otherwise, clingy parents raise clingy, maybe even resentful, children. We should cherish, not smother, our kids.

I think it's ridiculous to be so clingy that it takes medication to deal with the anxiety. Grow up, people!

OK, I'll get off my soap box, now!

September 8, 2008 - 4:11pm

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