I had a child by a man that I had dated for a few months, and when I we found out I was pregnant he insisted that he move in with me. The relationship has been rocky from the beginning--money issues, but the biggest problem was he neglected to tell me about his history of heart failure which he had been diagnosed with 10 years prior. He told me his daily medication was simply for high blood pressure. I found out about his true illness 2 years after he moved in with me AT the hospital after he took himself to the emergency room. Despite feeling deceived I stayed with him after he recovered for the sake of our child. Then 2 years later he ended up back in the hospital after NOT making any of the lifestyle changes that his doctor told him to. He ended having a heart pump put in and then a stroke. After struggling alone with a small child I finally called his seemingly unconcerned family and said I need help. The crazy, unemployed, alcoholic brother was the only one willing to come--and he has made the situation more stressful than it already with his drinking and paranoia. The rest of the family has been telling my child's father that he shouldn't trust me, etc...meanwhile he is on my health insurance, hasn't paid any household bills or childcare even before he got sick on top of the earlier deceptions about his health and finances, and the occasional physical abuse early in the relationship. Oh and while, he's not providing for his child, he has turned over all of his money to his alcoholic brother who has spent every penny.
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I had a child by a man that I had dated for a few months, and when I we found out I was pregnant he insisted that he move in with me. The relationship has been rocky from the beginning--money issues, but the biggest problem was he neglected to tell me about his history of heart failure which he had been diagnosed with 10 years prior. He told me his daily medication was simply for high blood pressure. I found out about his true illness 2 years after he moved in with me AT the hospital after he took himself to the emergency room. Despite feeling deceived I stayed with him after he recovered for the sake of our child. Then 2 years later he ended up back in the hospital after NOT making any of the lifestyle changes that his doctor told him to. He ended having a heart pump put in and then a stroke. After struggling alone with a small child I finally called his seemingly unconcerned family and said I need help. The crazy, unemployed, alcoholic brother was the only one willing to come--and he has made the situation more stressful than it already with his drinking and paranoia. The rest of the family has been telling my child's father that he shouldn't trust me, etc...meanwhile he is on my health insurance, hasn't paid any household bills or childcare even before he got sick on top of the earlier deceptions about his health and finances, and the occasional physical abuse early in the relationship. Oh and while, he's not providing for his child, he has turned over all of his money to his alcoholic brother who has spent every penny.
March 24, 2014 - 9:46pmThis Comment
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