Thankyou for your reply. I was unhappy for such a long time and I stayed because he needed me, he knew this, he knew we were unhappy yet he was ok to live like that and to this day, I don't understand why. Leaving was the hardest decision I've ever had to make and I feel for you and anyone else in the same situation. I didn't think that my ex was going to die. I thought he'd have the surgery and he'd be ok, we'd be friends and my daughter would see him often. I thought all would be ok once everything to do with the breakup had blown over. We never really had that chance. He didn't speak to my daughter for weeks leading up to his death because she reminded him of me and he told me he didn't want to life without me.. he wanted to die. I believed for a long time that he may have taken his own life but thankfully his death certificate proves otherwise. I guess everything happens for a reason. In a way I'm thankful that he distanced himself from our daughter as it wasn't such a sudden loss for her when he passed, although I'm not sure anything could have made it any easier for her. She loves him so much and it breaks my heart that he's not around. My only suggestion is for you to be patient and hope he decides to be involved in his sons life. Maybe he doesn't want to be in anyone's life if he believes he's just going to die anyway? Perhaps he believes he is doing you a favour by not being there for either of you.
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Thankyou for your reply. I was unhappy for such a long time and I stayed because he needed me, he knew this, he knew we were unhappy yet he was ok to live like that and to this day, I don't understand why. Leaving was the hardest decision I've ever had to make and I feel for you and anyone else in the same situation. I didn't think that my ex was going to die. I thought he'd have the surgery and he'd be ok, we'd be friends and my daughter would see him often. I thought all would be ok once everything to do with the breakup had blown over. We never really had that chance. He didn't speak to my daughter for weeks leading up to his death because she reminded him of me and he told me he didn't want to life without me.. he wanted to die. I believed for a long time that he may have taken his own life but thankfully his death certificate proves otherwise. I guess everything happens for a reason. In a way I'm thankful that he distanced himself from our daughter as it wasn't such a sudden loss for her when he passed, although I'm not sure anything could have made it any easier for her. She loves him so much and it breaks my heart that he's not around. My only suggestion is for you to be patient and hope he decides to be involved in his sons life. Maybe he doesn't want to be in anyone's life if he believes he's just going to die anyway? Perhaps he believes he is doing you a favour by not being there for either of you.
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