I'm so glad I found this site because I've been dealing with such guilt over leaving my sick partner- the difference is that when I left he was my fiancé, not my spouse. We had been dating for 2.5 years and our relationship was not perfect- we were from different sides if the country, of different cultures, had different interests and schedules, and didnt have the best communication. Only ten days after my ex proposed, my father died and only three weeks after that my fiancé was diagnosed with a malformation in his brain that could have potentially devastating side effects down the road and was already causing erectile dysfunction...and because of the problem in his brain he is not able to take Viagra because it alters blood flow and this would cause his brain malformation to have problems. So basically, we would never be able to have sex in addition to the uncertainty of his brain injury and the neurological deficits it would cause. I started having violent panic attacks and after a trip to the ER I decided I had to end my engagement. I think I made the right decision but I'm having such a hard time dealing with the fact that I added even more upset to him during this hard time of his life. I feel so horrible. Did I do the right thing?
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I'm so glad I found this site because I've been dealing with such guilt over leaving my sick partner- the difference is that when I left he was my fiancé, not my spouse. We had been dating for 2.5 years and our relationship was not perfect- we were from different sides if the country, of different cultures, had different interests and schedules, and didnt have the best communication. Only ten days after my ex proposed, my father died and only three weeks after that my fiancé was diagnosed with a malformation in his brain that could have potentially devastating side effects down the road and was already causing erectile dysfunction...and because of the problem in his brain he is not able to take Viagra because it alters blood flow and this would cause his brain malformation to have problems. So basically, we would never be able to have sex in addition to the uncertainty of his brain injury and the neurological deficits it would cause. I started having violent panic attacks and after a trip to the ER I decided I had to end my engagement. I think I made the right decision but I'm having such a hard time dealing with the fact that I added even more upset to him during this hard time of his life. I feel so horrible. Did I do the right thing?
September 24, 2014 - 2:59pmThis Comment
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