Hi,
I totally understand it can not be easy taking care of a sick spouse. But what I find the strangest is all the comments of the non-sick spouses and their self pity. "Poor me, my husband/wife is living in pain/disabled/dying and I'm not getting any attention from him/her, not even sex, I don't feel loved anymore" etc. etc. Maybe trying to other standing what your spouse is going trough and talking to your spouse about what you as caretaker are going trough will get you far. But stop making it about for you. You're are not the one sick. Maybe try to understand and be understood. Because trust me, your sick spouse knows when you don't sympathize. They have to deal with sickness and with a unsympathetic spouse at the same time. I wonder if you could pull that off. So stop making someone else's sickness all about you. Sympathize and be honest and you'll hopefully get the same in return. But please just for a while stop making it about you.
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Hi,
August 19, 2015 - 4:29amI totally understand it can not be easy taking care of a sick spouse. But what I find the strangest is all the comments of the non-sick spouses and their self pity. "Poor me, my husband/wife is living in pain/disabled/dying and I'm not getting any attention from him/her, not even sex, I don't feel loved anymore" etc. etc. Maybe trying to other standing what your spouse is going trough and talking to your spouse about what you as caretaker are going trough will get you far. But stop making it about for you. You're are not the one sick. Maybe try to understand and be understood. Because trust me, your sick spouse knows when you don't sympathize. They have to deal with sickness and with a unsympathetic spouse at the same time. I wonder if you could pull that off. So stop making someone else's sickness all about you. Sympathize and be honest and you'll hopefully get the same in return. But please just for a while stop making it about you.
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