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Have you asked your stepdad the reason why he wants to keep the news from his daughters? How close was he to them? Are they adults? Was he an involved dad in their lives? Is it possible he may be more concern with finding out that the daughters may not really care about his illness if they were not too close?

I think you need assess the situation by considering some of my questions. Also, do you have a relationship with your step sisters? If you do not tell them about their dad, will they resent you for not including them? The answers to these questions may help you decide whether to honor your stepdad's wishes or do what you believe is the right thing. You may also want to consider telling them anyway but let them know that dad had prefer not to worry them about his illness at this time. Ask them to keep it confidential and encourage them to casually call him from time to time to just talk to him and catch up with news. Maybe he will find the courage to tell them then.

Your concern is genuine and shows you care. That is wonderful!