It's a common misconception that younger women find sex easier than older women. Many younger women have difficulty early on learning how to have an orgasm. So the first thing to know is that your efforts do not mean that something is wrong with you.
I'm a physician who has treated over 3,000 women for hormonal problems and sexual dysfunction and I've found that the research is correct: at least 4 out of 10 women are seriously bothered by at least one of the four female-sexual problems (and these problems are more common in younger women): 1) difficulty with arousal, 2) decreased libido, 3) pain with intercourse, 4) difficulty with orgasm.
Now for how to make things better:
Though this may seem like an odd idea to some (and not a big deal to others), many women have told me that they first learned to have an orgasm by using a vibrator around the clitoris. Once you get there a few times, it really does become easier with practice. No need for a monster vibrator, or to even use for penetration, just a simple vibrator to use around the clitoris.
People have widely varying ideas about vibrators. Believe it or not, in Alabama, it's still against the law (and they enforce this law) to sell a vibrator for sexual purposes! So, many are upset by the idea. But, vibrators can be a wonderful tool to help you find the other side of that edge into orgasm.
For a discrete way to order, Amazon.com has a nice selection. Also, if even that seems embarrassing, then buy one of those razors that have the vibrating handles (take the blade off and use the round end of the handle)--then when you're in the tub, no one needs to know. Not that masturbating is something to be ashamed of...it's just I realize it's not something you want everyone in the house to know you're doing...like say practicing piano or reading a book. It's just not their business.
Important: Alcohol increases arousal but for most women makes the ability to orgasm more difficult. So, I'd recommend no alcohol.
Also (and this is a big one), birth control pills work by decreasing LH and FSH (so you don't ovulate), but the side effect is a decrease in testosterone--which can lead to weight gain, depression, headaches, and decreased ability to orgasm.
If a woman is over 25, then she should have blood testing done for sure. If testosterone levels are low, it's very difficult for most women to experience an orgasm.
Also, there's a procedure using blood-derived growth factors to stimulate multipotent stem cells to rejuvenate the tissue of the vagina--leading to increased ability to orgasm (and helping with stress incontinence). It's called the O-Shot (R). You can find more about the procedure and research about sexual dysfunction at http://OShot.info
The big thing to remember is that sex really is an art that becomes better as you learn more about your body and your own psychology. So, relax, keep educating yourself by listening to your own body and by reading all you can about sexuality and health.
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First, some reassurance:
It's a common misconception that younger women find sex easier than older women. Many younger women have difficulty early on learning how to have an orgasm. So the first thing to know is that your efforts do not mean that something is wrong with you.
I'm a physician who has treated over 3,000 women for hormonal problems and sexual dysfunction and I've found that the research is correct: at least 4 out of 10 women are seriously bothered by at least one of the four female-sexual problems (and these problems are more common in younger women): 1) difficulty with arousal, 2) decreased libido, 3) pain with intercourse, 4) difficulty with orgasm.
Now for how to make things better:
Though this may seem like an odd idea to some (and not a big deal to others), many women have told me that they first learned to have an orgasm by using a vibrator around the clitoris. Once you get there a few times, it really does become easier with practice. No need for a monster vibrator, or to even use for penetration, just a simple vibrator to use around the clitoris.
People have widely varying ideas about vibrators. Believe it or not, in Alabama, it's still against the law (and they enforce this law) to sell a vibrator for sexual purposes! So, many are upset by the idea. But, vibrators can be a wonderful tool to help you find the other side of that edge into orgasm.
For a discrete way to order, Amazon.com has a nice selection. Also, if even that seems embarrassing, then buy one of those razors that have the vibrating handles (take the blade off and use the round end of the handle)--then when you're in the tub, no one needs to know. Not that masturbating is something to be ashamed of...it's just I realize it's not something you want everyone in the house to know you're doing...like say practicing piano or reading a book. It's just not their business.
Important: Alcohol increases arousal but for most women makes the ability to orgasm more difficult. So, I'd recommend no alcohol.
Also (and this is a big one), birth control pills work by decreasing LH and FSH (so you don't ovulate), but the side effect is a decrease in testosterone--which can lead to weight gain, depression, headaches, and decreased ability to orgasm.
If a woman is over 25, then she should have blood testing done for sure. If testosterone levels are low, it's very difficult for most women to experience an orgasm.
Also, there's a procedure using blood-derived growth factors to stimulate multipotent stem cells to rejuvenate the tissue of the vagina--leading to increased ability to orgasm (and helping with stress incontinence). It's called the O-Shot (R). You can find more about the procedure and research about sexual dysfunction at http://OShot.info
The big thing to remember is that sex really is an art that becomes better as you learn more about your body and your own psychology. So, relax, keep educating yourself by listening to your own body and by reading all you can about sexuality and health.
Hope this helps.
Peace & health,
Charles Runels, MD
December 20, 2012 - 1:08amThis Comment
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