After wearing my wedding ring for 18 years, I happily took it off the day my ex-husband moved out.
Interestingly, when he and I sat down our three kids and told them that we were going to divorce, my youngest, who was 6 at the time, threw herself into my lap and said, "Oh, but Mommy, you'll have to stop wearing your beautiful rings!" I was shocked, and found it pretty funny, that it was the first thing she thought of. (But then again, she's always been into "bling.")
I had a beautiful diamond engagement ring that I wore, that was surrounded on either side by wedding bands of alternating diamonds and sapphires in a channel setting. I was more attached to the two bands than I was to the engagement ring, and wanted to keep wearing them. The meaning behind them died along with the marriage, so it didn't bother me at all emotionally to continue wearing them. I simply had them re-sized to fit my right hand, and have continued to wear them off and on.
Now, in a couple of weeks, I'm going to re-marry. My fiance isn't too crazy about me wearing my old wedding bands, even though they're on my right hand --I guess he sees them as more meaningful than I do. (They don't mean anything to me other than pretty rings to wear.) Or maybe he doesn't like the fact that they were given to me by my ex. In any case, I think you've raised an interesting question to explore, and I'd also like to hear what other women do with their wedding rings when they're single....and when they've moved on to a new relationship....
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After wearing my wedding ring for 18 years, I happily took it off the day my ex-husband moved out.
Interestingly, when he and I sat down our three kids and told them that we were going to divorce, my youngest, who was 6 at the time, threw herself into my lap and said, "Oh, but Mommy, you'll have to stop wearing your beautiful rings!" I was shocked, and found it pretty funny, that it was the first thing she thought of. (But then again, she's always been into "bling.")
I had a beautiful diamond engagement ring that I wore, that was surrounded on either side by wedding bands of alternating diamonds and sapphires in a channel setting. I was more attached to the two bands than I was to the engagement ring, and wanted to keep wearing them. The meaning behind them died along with the marriage, so it didn't bother me at all emotionally to continue wearing them. I simply had them re-sized to fit my right hand, and have continued to wear them off and on.
Now, in a couple of weeks, I'm going to re-marry. My fiance isn't too crazy about me wearing my old wedding bands, even though they're on my right hand --I guess he sees them as more meaningful than I do. (They don't mean anything to me other than pretty rings to wear.) Or maybe he doesn't like the fact that they were given to me by my ex. In any case, I think you've raised an interesting question to explore, and I'd also like to hear what other women do with their wedding rings when they're single....and when they've moved on to a new relationship....
March 9, 2009 - 4:48pmThis Comment
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