I absolutely agree with Susan. Your post will absolutely help others who are going through or who have gone through similar situations.
And your story is -- while difficult to read and hear about -- inspiring, as well. You could have retreated to a cave in your mind, afraid to venture out, have new experiences or form new relationships. Instead, you took charge when you had to, and then when you felt you could, you started getting help, both in therapy and with medication. These decisions are what has helped you get to the healthier place you are in today.
I'm sorry that you feel you have to "justify" your trauma, as you put it. Your bruises are internal rather than external, but they are just as real. Parents are supposed to keep us safe. Period. It is their first and primary responsibility. Your father and stepmother violated that trust -- in multiple ways. They not only didn't live up to the responsibility they had, they ripped it to shreds. None of that was your fault. None of it is ever a child's fault, even if that child is different or difficult.
However, this sentence is amazing:
"I am really beginning to see that while I may have gone though something terrible, I can still be me and happy."
I'm so happy that you've gotten to this place in your life. I smile when I think about all the future holds for you.
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Anon,
I absolutely agree with Susan. Your post will absolutely help others who are going through or who have gone through similar situations.
And your story is -- while difficult to read and hear about -- inspiring, as well. You could have retreated to a cave in your mind, afraid to venture out, have new experiences or form new relationships. Instead, you took charge when you had to, and then when you felt you could, you started getting help, both in therapy and with medication. These decisions are what has helped you get to the healthier place you are in today.
I'm sorry that you feel you have to "justify" your trauma, as you put it. Your bruises are internal rather than external, but they are just as real. Parents are supposed to keep us safe. Period. It is their first and primary responsibility. Your father and stepmother violated that trust -- in multiple ways. They not only didn't live up to the responsibility they had, they ripped it to shreds. None of that was your fault. None of it is ever a child's fault, even if that child is different or difficult.
However, this sentence is amazing:
"I am really beginning to see that while I may have gone though something terrible, I can still be me and happy."
I'm so happy that you've gotten to this place in your life. I smile when I think about all the future holds for you.
March 23, 2009 - 9:00amThis Comment
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