Heidi,
You are so welcome, and talking with you has helped me, too! :-)
I was thinking about our conversation last night, and I do agree with you that sharing your inner-most fears to a trusting and loving person could be wonderful and create even more intimacy. He sounds like he is very honest with you, and hopefully (with time) you can learn to trust that.
Relationships, even the most healthy of them all, are scary and risky. You are sharing every piece of yourself with another person (not giving it to them; just sharing), and the best part is that we all live in a society together with other people, places and things; those very people, places and things that can provide richness, insight, excitement and perspective to our relationships. The risky part is all these people, places and things can also create temptation or other "things" we'd prefer not to think about...but they're there, and we have a choice to live in a bubble (and place our loved ones in a bubble so they don't get hurt), or we live with hope, faith, positive intentions, respect and trust, and hope our loved ones do as well.
Here's to wishing you a healthy and happy and fulfilling relationship, and I hope you continue working on your past wounds so that you can appreciate your future even more.
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Heidi,
You are so welcome, and talking with you has helped me, too! :-)
I was thinking about our conversation last night, and I do agree with you that sharing your inner-most fears to a trusting and loving person could be wonderful and create even more intimacy. He sounds like he is very honest with you, and hopefully (with time) you can learn to trust that.
Relationships, even the most healthy of them all, are scary and risky. You are sharing every piece of yourself with another person (not giving it to them; just sharing), and the best part is that we all live in a society together with other people, places and things; those very people, places and things that can provide richness, insight, excitement and perspective to our relationships. The risky part is all these people, places and things can also create temptation or other "things" we'd prefer not to think about...but they're there, and we have a choice to live in a bubble (and place our loved ones in a bubble so they don't get hurt), or we live with hope, faith, positive intentions, respect and trust, and hope our loved ones do as well.
Here's to wishing you a healthy and happy and fulfilling relationship, and I hope you continue working on your past wounds so that you can appreciate your future even more.
Best,
March 23, 2009 - 11:19amAlison B
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