I also have the same problem. My husband and I have been married for over a year, but we have been together almost six years. At first, when we dated the sex was great. Throughout the years, we were together most of the weekends when we were living in the same state. Eventually he moved and we communicated through phone and email. He deployed and I deployed overseas and we communicated through email for almost a year and a half. Two years ago he proposed in Las Vegas. Since we have not seen each other physically in soo long I would have thought we be making love in the week that we were together. Unfortunately, we only did it once. He proposed that week, which was the happiest day of my life. He said since he forgot to buy condoms that we couldn't have sex. I thought it was a lame excuse, but I didn't mind since I wanted to just spend time with him and explore Las Vegas. Then I moved in with him almost two years ago and married him over a year ago; and during the time I lived with him not once have we had sex. He was worried that I would get pregnant if the condom broke or that birth controll will not be effective. We had fooled around a couple of times when we have live together, but its was only two or three times of the two years and that's it. I try my best to turn him on, but it just seems that he is not interested. At first I thought he was worried that if we had sex I might end up getting pregnant because we are not ready for that step. Recently, I had birth control implanted in my arm. Still nothing. I know that sex is not the only part of the relationship that is important because there are also other factors that make up a relationship that is also important. Though, I feel that we are both young (I'm in my mid 20s and he is in his early 30s) and that we need to have some time to connect sexually before the kids come and we get older. It's just hard for me to communicate with him because he gets the hint when I got the birth control implanted that we need more sex but he doesn't make a move or if I try to make a move he just brushes me off and moves on to do something else. Lately I have been pleasuring myself because I figured if he doesn't want to do it, then maybe I should be taking care of it myself. It's sad (for me) to think that I might need to get a vibrator in the near future just to have those times to have. He recently just said that he doesn't get horny too often and that some men have sex once a month or once every two months. I don't know about that, but we are not even having that at all. I guess I miss being intimate with him physically and feeling more love.
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I also have the same problem. My husband and I have been married for over a year, but we have been together almost six years. At first, when we dated the sex was great. Throughout the years, we were together most of the weekends when we were living in the same state. Eventually he moved and we communicated through phone and email. He deployed and I deployed overseas and we communicated through email for almost a year and a half. Two years ago he proposed in Las Vegas. Since we have not seen each other physically in soo long I would have thought we be making love in the week that we were together. Unfortunately, we only did it once. He proposed that week, which was the happiest day of my life. He said since he forgot to buy condoms that we couldn't have sex. I thought it was a lame excuse, but I didn't mind since I wanted to just spend time with him and explore Las Vegas. Then I moved in with him almost two years ago and married him over a year ago; and during the time I lived with him not once have we had sex. He was worried that I would get pregnant if the condom broke or that birth controll will not be effective. We had fooled around a couple of times when we have live together, but its was only two or three times of the two years and that's it. I try my best to turn him on, but it just seems that he is not interested. At first I thought he was worried that if we had sex I might end up getting pregnant because we are not ready for that step. Recently, I had birth control implanted in my arm. Still nothing. I know that sex is not the only part of the relationship that is important because there are also other factors that make up a relationship that is also important. Though, I feel that we are both young (I'm in my mid 20s and he is in his early 30s) and that we need to have some time to connect sexually before the kids come and we get older. It's just hard for me to communicate with him because he gets the hint when I got the birth control implanted that we need more sex but he doesn't make a move or if I try to make a move he just brushes me off and moves on to do something else. Lately I have been pleasuring myself because I figured if he doesn't want to do it, then maybe I should be taking care of it myself. It's sad (for me) to think that I might need to get a vibrator in the near future just to have those times to have. He recently just said that he doesn't get horny too often and that some men have sex once a month or once every two months. I don't know about that, but we are not even having that at all. I guess I miss being intimate with him physically and feeling more love.
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