First off - you need to TELL HIM. Honesty will clear up the air and your stress about this.
I can identify with you as I have never had an orgasm either. I have a high sex drive and want to have sex MORE than my husband a lot of times and yet sex disappoints me most times.... it is very hard because sex is more painful still...
so I understand.
But you must communicate with your husband about your problems. If you don't do it in this area - how is he suppose to know how to pleasure you?
When you come to him and he sees you're upset he will most likely feel sorry for you. Yes, he will be hurt, because in essence you were lying to him, but keeping it in for another 5 years will only make it harder.... start with that step and then consider going to a gyno. She should be able to give you some ideas of why you've been having problems orgasming ... in fact the biggest barrier may BE the faking ...
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First off - you need to TELL HIM. Honesty will clear up the air and your stress about this.
October 7, 2009 - 5:59amI can identify with you as I have never had an orgasm either. I have a high sex drive and want to have sex MORE than my husband a lot of times and yet sex disappoints me most times.... it is very hard because sex is more painful still...
so I understand.
But you must communicate with your husband about your problems. If you don't do it in this area - how is he suppose to know how to pleasure you?
When you come to him and he sees you're upset he will most likely feel sorry for you. Yes, he will be hurt, because in essence you were lying to him, but keeping it in for another 5 years will only make it harder.... start with that step and then consider going to a gyno. She should be able to give you some ideas of why you've been having problems orgasming ... in fact the biggest barrier may BE the faking ...
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