I don't like to see Homophobia as a real phobia, I'm a lesbian myself, usually my catholic family will give me a hard time about it. Though, I'll usually say "You're being very queerest at the moment" That seems to make them realise their actions faster then if I was to say homophobic. This has a much deeper effect as being being raciest has a much more negative consequences attached, this goes for most things with 'iest' at the end, such as sexiest etc have more power to them, where phobia's are much more socially accepted. I think the word queerest should be used more, as it includes the whole queer community.
I know that some people will refer to it as homiest but I feel this excludes a lot of people from the picture. I also think that being treated as a second class citizen, if not with in the whole community at least in our family community, a lot of queer people should not hide, let themself be known and to feel comfortable with themselves as a whole.
I think if anyone is going to be diagnosed with homophobia it's the queer community in itself. As we're made to fear a part of who we are, this causes extreme mental issues such as depression, anixety etc, it can affect our relationships, self confidences and our freedom of speech and actions.
Just a simple task such as holding your partners hand, or kissing them on the cheek can be seen as a very stressful task, one that causes people to feel anxious and paranoid that they are being watched or judged. Especially for lesbians, where showing public affection are automatically associated with porn or a forbidden temptation for men. This can make lesbian and bi women feel more dirty and violated.
The ironic thing is, the people who call themselves homophobic are really queeriest who make people homophobic. The biggest violation act that queeriest people do to queer people is silencing our actions, thoughts and voices. This is how they get their power, this is why we shouldn't be silent and not afraid to use the word queeriest.
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I don't like to see Homophobia as a real phobia, I'm a lesbian myself, usually my catholic family will give me a hard time about it. Though, I'll usually say "You're being very queerest at the moment" That seems to make them realise their actions faster then if I was to say homophobic. This has a much deeper effect as being being raciest has a much more negative consequences attached, this goes for most things with 'iest' at the end, such as sexiest etc have more power to them, where phobia's are much more socially accepted. I think the word queerest should be used more, as it includes the whole queer community.
I know that some people will refer to it as homiest but I feel this excludes a lot of people from the picture. I also think that being treated as a second class citizen, if not with in the whole community at least in our family community, a lot of queer people should not hide, let themself be known and to feel comfortable with themselves as a whole.
I think if anyone is going to be diagnosed with homophobia it's the queer community in itself. As we're made to fear a part of who we are, this causes extreme mental issues such as depression, anixety etc, it can affect our relationships, self confidences and our freedom of speech and actions.
Just a simple task such as holding your partners hand, or kissing them on the cheek can be seen as a very stressful task, one that causes people to feel anxious and paranoid that they are being watched or judged. Especially for lesbians, where showing public affection are automatically associated with porn or a forbidden temptation for men. This can make lesbian and bi women feel more dirty and violated.
The ironic thing is, the people who call themselves homophobic are really queeriest who make people homophobic. The biggest violation act that queeriest people do to queer people is silencing our actions, thoughts and voices. This is how they get their power, this is why we shouldn't be silent and not afraid to use the word queeriest.
May 2, 2009 - 3:51pmThis Comment
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