You are completely normal. It is common to not have much of a sex drive when you have a baby. Your life dramatically changes for one thing and also with the tearing, it may be uncomfortable. Sex in any relationship diminishes after time, it is what we do to try and spice things up a bit.
I am not sure how long it has been since you had your child but there is always the chance of postpartum depression (PPD) which is common after having children. This will certainly cause a lack of sex drive.
PPD is a medical condition - a specific type of depression that occurs within the first few months after childbirth. It is caused by the biochemical and hormonal changes that happen in the body after pregnancy and birth…nothing that is within your control.
Having children is an emotional roller coaster. Here is a link to the Mayo Clinic about postpartum depression if you would like more information. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/postpartum-depression/DS00546.
Let's move on to that 'loving feeling'. I think it is great that you are seeking information to satisfy your husband but I think it is also important for you. Remember sex is a great release of stress and certainly is enjoyable for both parties involved.
Allison talks about intimacy which is certainly a great way to have a relationship but we know men all too well that they are sexual creatures. Pleasure is certainly important.
What is it that would be a 'turn on' to you? Everyone is different. What ever it is, talk to your husband about that and maybe that will work. If you are experiencing discomfort, talk to your physician about it. There are certainly other ways to pleasure your husband but getting to the root of your pleasure should also be important.
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You are completely normal. It is common to not have much of a sex drive when you have a baby. Your life dramatically changes for one thing and also with the tearing, it may be uncomfortable. Sex in any relationship diminishes after time, it is what we do to try and spice things up a bit.
I am not sure how long it has been since you had your child but there is always the chance of postpartum depression (PPD) which is common after having children. This will certainly cause a lack of sex drive.
PPD is a medical condition - a specific type of depression that occurs within the first few months after childbirth. It is caused by the biochemical and hormonal changes that happen in the body after pregnancy and birth…nothing that is within your control.
Having children is an emotional roller coaster. Here is a link to the Mayo Clinic about postpartum depression if you would like more information. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/postpartum-depression/DS00546.
Let's move on to that 'loving feeling'. I think it is great that you are seeking information to satisfy your husband but I think it is also important for you. Remember sex is a great release of stress and certainly is enjoyable for both parties involved.
Allison talks about intimacy which is certainly a great way to have a relationship but we know men all too well that they are sexual creatures. Pleasure is certainly important.
What is it that would be a 'turn on' to you? Everyone is different. What ever it is, talk to your husband about that and maybe that will work. If you are experiencing discomfort, talk to your physician about it. There are certainly other ways to pleasure your husband but getting to the root of your pleasure should also be important.
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