If you could push out two children with a doctor and a bunch of nurses around staring at your vagina during its most horrifying moment, you can get through physio. Most pelvic physiotherapists are female, and they know how awkward and emotionally distressing this is - and if physio helps you, you'll soon be able to do it yourself at home. I will warn you that physio is a lot of work, and it might not work - something I found/find incredibly demoralizing, but you have to do it before any doctor will attempt any other treatment. I completely understand your desperation - I started getting treated for VVS about 4 years ago and nothing has helped - but I can tell you as someone who has lost a long term relationship because of vulvodynia that you need to involve your husband in every aspect of your treatment - he can help you stay motivated, and if he better understands how vulvodynia affects you emotionally and sexually, it's easier for him to cope with his own frustration. Believe me when I say I understand wanting to shut your vagina out of your life - no sex, no physio, no touching of this cursed thing - but while I don't know if I will ever find relief from vulvodynia or if I can find a way to be happy with it, I do know that if you can be brave enough to be a mother, you're brave enough to face this head on. You've changed poopy diapers and cleaned up puke - you can handle getting handsy with your lady bits. And from the way I can tell you love your daughter, I know that you'd do anything in the world to stop her pain - it's time to do the same for yourself, not just for you, but for your family.
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If you could push out two children with a doctor and a bunch of nurses around staring at your vagina during its most horrifying moment, you can get through physio. Most pelvic physiotherapists are female, and they know how awkward and emotionally distressing this is - and if physio helps you, you'll soon be able to do it yourself at home. I will warn you that physio is a lot of work, and it might not work - something I found/find incredibly demoralizing, but you have to do it before any doctor will attempt any other treatment. I completely understand your desperation - I started getting treated for VVS about 4 years ago and nothing has helped - but I can tell you as someone who has lost a long term relationship because of vulvodynia that you need to involve your husband in every aspect of your treatment - he can help you stay motivated, and if he better understands how vulvodynia affects you emotionally and sexually, it's easier for him to cope with his own frustration. Believe me when I say I understand wanting to shut your vagina out of your life - no sex, no physio, no touching of this cursed thing - but while I don't know if I will ever find relief from vulvodynia or if I can find a way to be happy with it, I do know that if you can be brave enough to be a mother, you're brave enough to face this head on. You've changed poopy diapers and cleaned up puke - you can handle getting handsy with your lady bits. And from the way I can tell you love your daughter, I know that you'd do anything in the world to stop her pain - it's time to do the same for yourself, not just for you, but for your family.
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