Pamela,
Yes, it's beyond confusing, it's downright bizarre. I didn't see the show but my husband and I were talking about it today.... we were trying to figure out why the label "cougar" has been so popular and why it's even a big deal in our culture if a woman dates a younger man. I put in my two cents that maybe there's this somewhat positive aspect about it where as women become more upwardly mobile, independent and have the means to obtain things they need/want for themselves, they will have relationships with younger men who can't afford certain things and look up to and respect these women - it becomes a maternal/aphrodisiac kind of thing, not unlike the 18-25 year old young women who are always seeking out older, more established men... much of the motivation is about being parented, in a way; feeling safe with someone who knows more, has more power, more confidence, more money.
But the whole thing about the woman having to be super rich and super fab and super gorgeous is pretty nauseating... it gets back to people just using one another instead of people connecting and loving and enjoying one another. It's this vapid, sanctioned sort of prostituting oneself for "love" which, in fact, is quite empty and quite unloving in so many ways.
But in the long run I have to feel it is somewhat encouraging that we even get to have some kind of voice and image in the mainstream that sees aging women as hot. I mean - YEA!
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Pamela,
Yes, it's beyond confusing, it's downright bizarre. I didn't see the show but my husband and I were talking about it today.... we were trying to figure out why the label "cougar" has been so popular and why it's even a big deal in our culture if a woman dates a younger man. I put in my two cents that maybe there's this somewhat positive aspect about it where as women become more upwardly mobile, independent and have the means to obtain things they need/want for themselves, they will have relationships with younger men who can't afford certain things and look up to and respect these women - it becomes a maternal/aphrodisiac kind of thing, not unlike the 18-25 year old young women who are always seeking out older, more established men... much of the motivation is about being parented, in a way; feeling safe with someone who knows more, has more power, more confidence, more money.
But the whole thing about the woman having to be super rich and super fab and super gorgeous is pretty nauseating... it gets back to people just using one another instead of people connecting and loving and enjoying one another. It's this vapid, sanctioned sort of prostituting oneself for "love" which, in fact, is quite empty and quite unloving in so many ways.
But in the long run I have to feel it is somewhat encouraging that we even get to have some kind of voice and image in the mainstream that sees aging women as hot. I mean - YEA!
April 17, 2009 - 5:27pmThis Comment
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