My husband and I talked, and are on the same page as far as our expectations with my in-laws/his parents, so we'll be talking with them together. I agree that normally we would have my hubby talk with his own parents, but we want to have a united front on this one.
Just a clarification: they do have a lock on both of their back doors, but the problem is: it is usually kept unlocked because one of them is outside; the other is inside and they don't want to lock the other person out. That's understandable to me. Same with a lock high up on the door--I could "talk them" into this, but I'm not 100% sure that it would remain locked every-single time---habits die hard, and they would leave it unlocked while it is just the two of them at home, and then easily forget to keep locked while grandchildren are visiting (and...it does only take once).
It's nice to have options, and I am looking into safety products that cover the pool, just one more physical barrier. I'll look into the homeowner rules/codes...good idea!
And yes, if they can not agree to our expectations and safety rules, then my son will not spend time over there without myself or his dad present. They LOVE seeing my son and they love spending time with him (oh, and no need for daycare; I just can grocery shop w/o a toddler..that is pure heaven!!).
Bottomline: we all agree that my son's safety is #1, but disagree on the degree of safety measures that are required around the pool. I will change my schedule without hesitation to be with my son at their house, if that's what it takes (hee hee--that might make them change their minds!) :)
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Hi everyone,
Thanks for your comments!
My husband and I talked, and are on the same page as far as our expectations with my in-laws/his parents, so we'll be talking with them together. I agree that normally we would have my hubby talk with his own parents, but we want to have a united front on this one.
Just a clarification: they do have a lock on both of their back doors, but the problem is: it is usually kept unlocked because one of them is outside; the other is inside and they don't want to lock the other person out. That's understandable to me. Same with a lock high up on the door--I could "talk them" into this, but I'm not 100% sure that it would remain locked every-single time---habits die hard, and they would leave it unlocked while it is just the two of them at home, and then easily forget to keep locked while grandchildren are visiting (and...it does only take once).
It's nice to have options, and I am looking into safety products that cover the pool, just one more physical barrier. I'll look into the homeowner rules/codes...good idea!
And yes, if they can not agree to our expectations and safety rules, then my son will not spend time over there without myself or his dad present. They LOVE seeing my son and they love spending time with him (oh, and no need for daycare; I just can grocery shop w/o a toddler..that is pure heaven!!).
Bottomline: we all agree that my son's safety is #1, but disagree on the degree of safety measures that are required around the pool. I will change my schedule without hesitation to be with my son at their house, if that's what it takes (hee hee--that might make them change their minds!) :)
thanks---and I'll post again with the conclusion!
April 26, 2009 - 6:37amThis Comment
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