I'm sorry to hear of ya'll problems. I wrote the post just above yours. I'm curious-how long has her Mirena been out? Mine's been out about 3 months and I feel like my sex drive is just now beginning to come back. There's no doubt in my mind my lack of desire was from that evil thing. It makes you feel cold and unlovable. Maybe she just needs to give it more time? I would think the most important thing here is finding out if she truly WANTS to salvage your marriage. Since you guys have kids together hopefully she does. If she's made up her mind that she's ready to give up then your efforts won't get very far, but if she wants to make it work then she needs to ask herself if her lack of desire is truly about you or is it gone altogether? I would suggest yall seeing a marriage counselor but I know that's not cheap. I think some insurances may cover it. I CAN say this--during the 2.5 years I had that Mirena I began thinking the same things, that I just wasn't attracted to him anymore. It didn't make sense bc I love him and he's a super hot guy. I tried telling doctors and they'd say the same thing-that I was depressed. That could be it too for your wife-maybe she's depressed--over time losing your sex drive makes you feel like you're just a body walking around, and not a woman. I think you mentioned that she's a stay-at-home mom. I am one also, and until 3 years ago when I had my son I always worked, and I feel like I was happier when I worked-just getting out and seeing people. If she's not exercising, for me that makes a HUGE difference. Of course, telling her to start exercising if she's not already could be BAD...me &my guy bought some bikes &we take our 2yr old when we can get away. Or maybe yall could plan some weekend getaways. I don't know yall but I feel like I've been there. I guess that's the most important thing is finding out if she truly wants to make this work before moving forward, otherwise you're just beating a dead horse. I wish yall Good Luck!
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I'm sorry to hear of ya'll problems. I wrote the post just above yours. I'm curious-how long has her Mirena been out? Mine's been out about 3 months and I feel like my sex drive is just now beginning to come back. There's no doubt in my mind my lack of desire was from that evil thing. It makes you feel cold and unlovable. Maybe she just needs to give it more time? I would think the most important thing here is finding out if she truly WANTS to salvage your marriage. Since you guys have kids together hopefully she does. If she's made up her mind that she's ready to give up then your efforts won't get very far, but if she wants to make it work then she needs to ask herself if her lack of desire is truly about you or is it gone altogether? I would suggest yall seeing a marriage counselor but I know that's not cheap. I think some insurances may cover it. I CAN say this--during the 2.5 years I had that Mirena I began thinking the same things, that I just wasn't attracted to him anymore. It didn't make sense bc I love him and he's a super hot guy. I tried telling doctors and they'd say the same thing-that I was depressed. That could be it too for your wife-maybe she's depressed--over time losing your sex drive makes you feel like you're just a body walking around, and not a woman. I think you mentioned that she's a stay-at-home mom. I am one also, and until 3 years ago when I had my son I always worked, and I feel like I was happier when I worked-just getting out and seeing people. If she's not exercising, for me that makes a HUGE difference. Of course, telling her to start exercising if she's not already could be BAD...me &my guy bought some bikes &we take our 2yr old when we can get away. Or maybe yall could plan some weekend getaways. I don't know yall but I feel like I've been there. I guess that's the most important thing is finding out if she truly wants to make this work before moving forward, otherwise you're just beating a dead horse. I wish yall Good Luck!
April 28, 2012 - 9:14amThis Comment
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