I wanted to ask if this really kills a woman's sex drive. My girl and I have been together for almost a year and a half, she used to have that birth control that goes in your arm but then she complained about weight gain and wanted to get another one so she decided to go for the IUD. She's barely 20 years old, and she's had that thing on her arm for 3 years until she decided to switch to the IUD. Before the change we would have sex 2-3 times a week(not much since we don't live together). We would always joke about sex and talk about it more openly, no lie, she's very shy when it comes to sex and sort of insecure about her body. But after the change to the IUD, I can count with my hands how many times we've had sex. She says that's she is like that and sex is whatever to her but I notice after we have sex she looks like she didn't like it, as if it was more of a chore for her. We went from having sex 2-3 times a week to once a month. At first I thought she didn't feel any affection towards me, or in doing something wrong but I can't even talk to her about sex because she gets upset. I can't even mention anything related to our sex relationship because she says get mad immediately. She's truly shown me that she loves me, so I know for her to be tired of me or seeing another person is not something she would do. But I do get frustrated to know that she doesn't want to have sex. Since we started dating she's always said that sex isn't really something she cares about but before the IUD I could see she would look at it differently, now it looks like she completely lost her desire to have sex. I need help finding a way to tell her to switch or just no be on BC. She really doesn't want to get pregnant yet so I know she would look at other BC options. But I don't know how to tell her that without her thinking that sex is all I want. I feel like that's what she thinks everytime I mention something related to sex or BC. And I'm afraid she could get a different concept of me thinking that sex is all I want.
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I wanted to ask if this really kills a woman's sex drive. My girl and I have been together for almost a year and a half, she used to have that birth control that goes in your arm but then she complained about weight gain and wanted to get another one so she decided to go for the IUD. She's barely 20 years old, and she's had that thing on her arm for 3 years until she decided to switch to the IUD. Before the change we would have sex 2-3 times a week(not much since we don't live together). We would always joke about sex and talk about it more openly, no lie, she's very shy when it comes to sex and sort of insecure about her body. But after the change to the IUD, I can count with my hands how many times we've had sex. She says that's she is like that and sex is whatever to her but I notice after we have sex she looks like she didn't like it, as if it was more of a chore for her. We went from having sex 2-3 times a week to once a month. At first I thought she didn't feel any affection towards me, or in doing something wrong but I can't even talk to her about sex because she gets upset. I can't even mention anything related to our sex relationship because she says get mad immediately. She's truly shown me that she loves me, so I know for her to be tired of me or seeing another person is not something she would do. But I do get frustrated to know that she doesn't want to have sex. Since we started dating she's always said that sex isn't really something she cares about but before the IUD I could see she would look at it differently, now it looks like she completely lost her desire to have sex. I need help finding a way to tell her to switch or just no be on BC. She really doesn't want to get pregnant yet so I know she would look at other BC options. But I don't know how to tell her that without her thinking that sex is all I want. I feel like that's what she thinks everytime I mention something related to sex or BC. And I'm afraid she could get a different concept of me thinking that sex is all I want.
January 26, 2016 - 6:46pmThis Comment
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