Ahh I love this advise. What you say here is profound and could not be more relevant to the discussion. Brain science reveals that there is a part of your brain which actively tries to anticipate what your partner is going to say and do. There is a direct correlation to predictability and disinterest. That is why mystery is so powerful. If you dont know everything about your partner you will want to know more about them. It keeps your mind engaged. If you've spent every waking hour for the last 6 months with a person then you lose all of that interest and it becomes easy for your mind to dismiss them and move on to trying to figure out other mysteries. So like you say having seperate lives and coming together at the end of your day to share what happened can create a lot of interest and fun for both of you. Then what happens is you get to live an extra life through your partner as they share what's been going on in their life.
As a matter of fact, an excellent example is this post its self. You dont know why your partner has lost interest in sex and now you want to know! I bet that even if he could be compelled to have sex and you managed to come every time, you would still deeply desire to know why he did not want to have sex anymore. It's all about that mystery.
Thanks again for reminding us about the power of mystery, and good luck to you anon and you too duckylurv :)
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Ahh I love this advise. What you say here is profound and could not be more relevant to the discussion. Brain science reveals that there is a part of your brain which actively tries to anticipate what your partner is going to say and do. There is a direct correlation to predictability and disinterest. That is why mystery is so powerful. If you dont know everything about your partner you will want to know more about them. It keeps your mind engaged. If you've spent every waking hour for the last 6 months with a person then you lose all of that interest and it becomes easy for your mind to dismiss them and move on to trying to figure out other mysteries. So like you say having seperate lives and coming together at the end of your day to share what happened can create a lot of interest and fun for both of you. Then what happens is you get to live an extra life through your partner as they share what's been going on in their life.
As a matter of fact, an excellent example is this post its self. You dont know why your partner has lost interest in sex and now you want to know! I bet that even if he could be compelled to have sex and you managed to come every time, you would still deeply desire to know why he did not want to have sex anymore. It's all about that mystery.
Thanks again for reminding us about the power of mystery, and good luck to you anon and you too duckylurv :)
January 20, 2010 - 9:34amThis Comment
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