This has become a more common occurrence over the last couple decades. Mothers have become younger and younger. I am 32 years old and I am a minority in my social group with no children. My best friend has four children and has been living with her boyfriend for over 10 years with no marriage talk.
In my group of friends (10 women), only one is on her way to marriage (engaged), 9 women have children and 9 out of 9 have never been married. Wow! I guess I never really took it all into consideration.
I wonder if there are underlying reasons. I was previously married and I am not sure I would go through with marriage again. The main reason would be the legality of it. Divorces make lawyers rich, the couples poor and no one wins. After my marriage ended, I spent 8 years with a man which ended with him leaving with the clothes on his back. This is all he brought into the relationship. Easy break up and no legal means necessary.
Another main reason I believe is that marriage is no longer sacred. Religion has become a joke in many cultures with the younger generations. I think attending mass, church, synagogue, which ever you prefer is no longer essential in many homes. I know in the Catholic religion, and pardon my dismay; you have to get married in order to die. I laugh about this statement since I was born, raised and attended Catholic school for 9 years. Catholicism teaches that there is Baptism, First Holy Communion, Confirmation, etc. to include Marriage and then Final Rights. I don’t believe that God would judge us if we didn’t meet each step. Catholicism is a rough religion to swallow in my eyes which made me unreligious in my life now. I could never ask questions in school and nothing ever made sense.
One more thought on the subject would be cost effectiveness. I have neighbors that workfor a party hall. They have had so many cancellations due to the economic DEPRESSION. Yes, I said depression. It is expensive to get married, unless there is no ceremony or party afterwards which takes the fun out of the celebration of marriage.
Do you agree? Do you think that marriage laws will change in the future? Do you think common law marriages will resurrect into State laws since so many people are no longer getting married?
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This has become a more common occurrence over the last couple decades. Mothers have become younger and younger. I am 32 years old and I am a minority in my social group with no children. My best friend has four children and has been living with her boyfriend for over 10 years with no marriage talk.
In my group of friends (10 women), only one is on her way to marriage (engaged), 9 women have children and 9 out of 9 have never been married. Wow! I guess I never really took it all into consideration.
I wonder if there are underlying reasons. I was previously married and I am not sure I would go through with marriage again. The main reason would be the legality of it. Divorces make lawyers rich, the couples poor and no one wins. After my marriage ended, I spent 8 years with a man which ended with him leaving with the clothes on his back. This is all he brought into the relationship. Easy break up and no legal means necessary.
Another main reason I believe is that marriage is no longer sacred. Religion has become a joke in many cultures with the younger generations. I think attending mass, church, synagogue, which ever you prefer is no longer essential in many homes. I know in the Catholic religion, and pardon my dismay; you have to get married in order to die. I laugh about this statement since I was born, raised and attended Catholic school for 9 years. Catholicism teaches that there is Baptism, First Holy Communion, Confirmation, etc. to include Marriage and then Final Rights. I don’t believe that God would judge us if we didn’t meet each step. Catholicism is a rough religion to swallow in my eyes which made me unreligious in my life now. I could never ask questions in school and nothing ever made sense.
One more thought on the subject would be cost effectiveness. I have neighbors that workfor a party hall. They have had so many cancellations due to the economic DEPRESSION. Yes, I said depression. It is expensive to get married, unless there is no ceremony or party afterwards which takes the fun out of the celebration of marriage.
Do you agree? Do you think that marriage laws will change in the future? Do you think common law marriages will resurrect into State laws since so many people are no longer getting married?
May 16, 2009 - 10:28amThis Comment
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