I'm so sorry about the fact that you don't have a uterus (and that it took you so long to find out).
When the doctor did the pelvic ultrasound/CT scan, was he able to find out whether you have functioning ovaries? If you do, it would be possible for you to have your own children by using a surrogate mother.
Have you considered talk therapy to help deal with the grief and sadness (and, I would guess, some anger) surrounding this issue?
Let me encourage you to try to tell your boyfriend about this sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the harder it is going to get. You need to know what his reaction will be and you need to know it before you start planning a wedding. Will it be too much for him and he decides to break up with you? Or will he understand and support you through it?
Please think about going ahead and talking to him. It's important to both of you. I am sure that if the tables were turned and your boyfriend told you something about himself that meant he couldn't have children, you would still love him for who he is. Right?
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Anon,
I'm so sorry about the fact that you don't have a uterus (and that it took you so long to find out).
When the doctor did the pelvic ultrasound/CT scan, was he able to find out whether you have functioning ovaries? If you do, it would be possible for you to have your own children by using a surrogate mother.
Have you considered talk therapy to help deal with the grief and sadness (and, I would guess, some anger) surrounding this issue?
Let me encourage you to try to tell your boyfriend about this sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the harder it is going to get. You need to know what his reaction will be and you need to know it before you start planning a wedding. Will it be too much for him and he decides to break up with you? Or will he understand and support you through it?
Please think about going ahead and talking to him. It's important to both of you. I am sure that if the tables were turned and your boyfriend told you something about himself that meant he couldn't have children, you would still love him for who he is. Right?
April 29, 2010 - 10:04amThis Comment
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