I think this entire conversation validates Joanna Poppink's conclusion from years of practice with eating disordered adults that boundary violations are a common theme in those who develop eating disorders. Those of you who are dogmatic, vociferous proponents of the "Maudsley Method" and F.E.A.S.T have violated the boundaries of those of us who did experience these boundary violations and did develop eating disorders. It is not surprising to me that the mothers completely deny that they may have in any way contributed to their child's issues, except to concede some kind of genetic predisoposition. Your disrespect for those of us who are/were children who had/have eating disorders that is at some level connected to our parent's relationship with us only reinforces Joanna's point. You can't know what you aren't willing to acknowledge in yourself.
Any treatment modality that states that parents are never to blame completely denies the experience of what I can only imagine are millions of women and men who suffer from eating disorders.Maybe you just need to drop the word blame - it's too loaded and doesn't even begin to address the nuances of a complex relationship that involves love and compassion as well as mistake and injury. You condescendingly deny and question my reality which leads me to the conclusion that you don't respect boundaries and that you have to be right.
I'm not willing to read this arm-twisting, narrow-minded, rude conversation any more. I wish your children well....
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I think this entire conversation validates Joanna Poppink's conclusion from years of practice with eating disordered adults that boundary violations are a common theme in those who develop eating disorders. Those of you who are dogmatic, vociferous proponents of the "Maudsley Method" and F.E.A.S.T have violated the boundaries of those of us who did experience these boundary violations and did develop eating disorders. It is not surprising to me that the mothers completely deny that they may have in any way contributed to their child's issues, except to concede some kind of genetic predisoposition. Your disrespect for those of us who are/were children who had/have eating disorders that is at some level connected to our parent's relationship with us only reinforces Joanna's point. You can't know what you aren't willing to acknowledge in yourself.
Any treatment modality that states that parents are never to blame completely denies the experience of what I can only imagine are millions of women and men who suffer from eating disorders.Maybe you just need to drop the word blame - it's too loaded and doesn't even begin to address the nuances of a complex relationship that involves love and compassion as well as mistake and injury. You condescendingly deny and question my reality which leads me to the conclusion that you don't respect boundaries and that you have to be right.
I'm not willing to read this arm-twisting, narrow-minded, rude conversation any more. I wish your children well....
Carol
June 10, 2009 - 10:36pmThis Comment
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