Dear jemlovestravel,
Hi! Glad this is such a vibrant and respectful thread going. You should be reassured that there are many wonderful women here who want to see you truly happy and confident that you are making sound decisions.
That being said, I'm no relationship expert but as an innocent bystander I'm shocked no one has commented on the fact that your boyfriend is 22. Old soul or not, I would be hard pressed to say that at your age of 38, he could not possibly be "ready" for what you no doubt are looking for at this point in your life (I'm 39 and divorced once at 29, so I'm confident saying this). You can talk yourself into or out of anything. I convinced myself that my boyfriend at 27 really wanted to marry me even though he had doubts, regardless of what those were. Big mistake!
Please, please, please, respect yourself and make whatever decision you need to, but don't move in with him. I know about moving for a man, and it hardly ever works out. I wasted a lot of time with the wrong men. Be your own independent woman, move to be closer if you want to give it a shot, but get your own place. If you don't have the money, don't move. Stay where you are and focus on making a better life where you are, weight or not.
Good luck in your journey, and please let us all know what you decide and how you are doing.
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Dear jemlovestravel,
July 1, 2010 - 9:40amHi! Glad this is such a vibrant and respectful thread going. You should be reassured that there are many wonderful women here who want to see you truly happy and confident that you are making sound decisions.
That being said, I'm no relationship expert but as an innocent bystander I'm shocked no one has commented on the fact that your boyfriend is 22. Old soul or not, I would be hard pressed to say that at your age of 38, he could not possibly be "ready" for what you no doubt are looking for at this point in your life (I'm 39 and divorced once at 29, so I'm confident saying this). You can talk yourself into or out of anything. I convinced myself that my boyfriend at 27 really wanted to marry me even though he had doubts, regardless of what those were. Big mistake!
Please, please, please, respect yourself and make whatever decision you need to, but don't move in with him. I know about moving for a man, and it hardly ever works out. I wasted a lot of time with the wrong men. Be your own independent woman, move to be closer if you want to give it a shot, but get your own place. If you don't have the money, don't move. Stay where you are and focus on making a better life where you are, weight or not.
Good luck in your journey, and please let us all know what you decide and how you are doing.
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