I do not know if the boys have benefitted, but they did learn that name calling, especially the really ugly words used for females, was a big "not-going-to-happen" with their mom.
It's sad when the "not until your marriage" advice is all that girls are given, and abstinence does not answer the problem either. You cannot stop a chocolate lover from eating chocolate, and the hormones of a teenager are not disuaded by abstinence. Honestly, I assumed that the women who would use the marriage-bit had gone the way of the Do-do, but guess not.
With my girls, I simply told them to let me know if they thought they needed birth control pills, and condoms, and we would talk. It wasn't permission to do, just the sense that they knew we could talk about it, and it worked, they graduated high school without becoming mothers. It was my answer, but each child is different and I assume it requires different answers.
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I do not know if the boys have benefitted, but they did learn that name calling, especially the really ugly words used for females, was a big "not-going-to-happen" with their mom.
It's sad when the "not until your marriage" advice is all that girls are given, and abstinence does not answer the problem either. You cannot stop a chocolate lover from eating chocolate, and the hormones of a teenager are not disuaded by abstinence. Honestly, I assumed that the women who would use the marriage-bit had gone the way of the Do-do, but guess not.
With my girls, I simply told them to let me know if they thought they needed birth control pills, and condoms, and we would talk. It wasn't permission to do, just the sense that they knew we could talk about it, and it worked, they graduated high school without becoming mothers. It was my answer, but each child is different and I assume it requires different answers.
June 19, 2009 - 9:15amThis Comment
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