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i'm newly married but i always keep myself away from being intercourse with my husband because I'm scared of sex for the first time. He sometimes angry with me but i'm totally helpless. Whenever we proceed for intercourse but i feel fear of pain and resist him doing intercourse. Please help me so that i can remove this tension and keep my husband happy. I don't want to be scared of sex.
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I have a fear of penerative sex, which is causing breakdowns in my relationships. I am with a very loving, understanding man. But my barriers are still coming up. I dont know what to do? Im afraid of losing him.
June 2, 2018 - 3:31pmThis Comment
HI... I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ONE YEAR. BUT STILL I AM HAVING A FEAR OF INTIMACY WITH MY HUSBAND. WE BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER ALOT. BUT DUE TO MY FEAR, HE SOMETIMES GET UPSET. FROM ONE YEAR WE DIDN'T HAVE A SEX DUE TO MY FEAR OF PAIN.
May 10, 2018 - 5:59amPLEASE GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR REMOVING MY FEAR.
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It can feel slightly daunting, but sex is not painful. When a baby can come out of the vagina, the penis is nothing to be afraid of! Yes, the initial insertion may feel uncomfortable, but just try to relax your legs. Leave your legs free, and guide the penis into your vagina. Once the first thrust is over, it shouldn’t pain at all. Hope it helps. Remember, just relax your legs and hips and go with the flow.
June 12, 2018 - 6:54amThis Comment
Hello Anon
May 10, 2018 - 1:55pmPlease take the time to read this entire thread - there is a lot of advice here and many suggestions.
Susan
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3 years of married life, I still can't satisfy my husband because of my fear and pain. How can I over come that situation.
April 4, 2018 - 12:52amThis Comment
Well, it really hurts for the first time but I must tell you that you have to ENDURE it. Remember that it is your husband's right. I know what you've been through you're not alone. The only way to overcome it is to do it. I know you're scared but be brave sometimes we need to think of our husbands more than ourselves. Don't worry the pain is tolerable. Even if you are scared do not stop. I know you can do it. Don't focus on the pain even if it is there. Not doing it is more stressing because you keep thinking about it.
April 9, 2018 - 4:07amThis Comment
Anon
April 4, 2018 - 2:08pmYou may have a medical issue that is causing your pain - see your doctor. If this isn't the case, seek therapy - there is certainly hope for you but you need to seek help.
Susan
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I have had sex before and it was painful and now I’m in a relationship with someone I really love and I am terrified of having sex with him because of how much it hurt the first time.
October 19, 2017 - 1:45amThis Comment
Hi All,
I am a husband. I was thinking my wife is the only one who is afraid of sex. Its been two years we haven't had sex. I really respect her feelings. But now we both want to make our family and want to have a kid.
Sometimes we think of adopting but because of parents pressure we can't do that. Yesterday one thought came to my mind is that like there is Viagra for exiting male to do sex there may be something for women also which can make her excite too. This way a woman may want insertion without thinking of pain.
According to me the fear of pain if because woman just think she wants to have sex but does not arouse the sexual feelings. So that's why she is more concentrated on pain rather than excitement.
There is an Ayurvedic stuff(medicine you can say) which helps in raising the sexual feelings. These are shwet musli and sheelajit. I would prefer to go for ayurvedic natural way instead of allopathic which may have side effects. You can checkout the benefits of these products. I remember Shwet musli helps in getting the vagina wet so that penis can be in smoothly.
August 19, 2017 - 11:08amThis Comment
I have been married for 9 months now and have not had sexual intercourse witn my husband. I have soo much fear of him entering me and it really hurts when it gets to that stage! Help :(
June 28, 2017 - 11:08amThis Comment