I Have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. He is the perfect boyfriend to me and best father to my daughter, even though she is not his own. However, i too have the same issue, he does not want to have sex as much as i do! Yes, it is very frustrating! However he has been like this from the beginning, so i know its not that he got bored of me. He would always say that he did not want me to think that he only wanted to be with me for the sex, that he really did care.
We have talked about it many many many times, but it just seems to get no where. I never thought that I would ever have a problem like this. I was with my daughters father for over 5 years and i never wanted to have sex. I felt that once a week was still too much LOL. However, i now want it...as i tell him...breakfast lunch dinner and mid night snack; all the time!
I wonder if i have a problem, but then i ask myself "Isn't this an over all fantasy for any normal male? Having a girlfriend who wants to have sex all the time and never complains!". He is the best guy i have ever been with. When we do have sex we are both very satisfied, he has told me i am also the best he has ever had, so why doesn't he want to have it all the time?
His excuse is this: He was with his sons mother for about 7 years, off and on. He said he had a really high sex drive, wanted as much sex as me and she never gave it up. He says that he stopped asking for it cause he would never get it. He blames that for his ever so low sex drive. At first i was skeptical, i was insecure and thought that maybe his ex was a lot better looking than me and maybe that was the reason why he wanted her so much. However, i finally met her last week and ummmm i know i have nothing to worry about.
My friend does couples counseling and in a desperate need for answers, i vented to her about my issue. She said that he may have a different definition to what love means. I may need the sexual attention from my partner in order to feel loved, but he may not.
She also mentioned that he probably feels intimidated by my high sex drive and may make him feel as he is unable to satisfy me, which can also lower any persons sex drive.
I do suggest talking to your boyfriend about this issue, however do not expect for things to change over night! As i continue this relationship, i have learned not to pressure him as much and learned how to please myself in other ways =) I do not want to feel the need to cheat on him, especially since i know he is the best guy i have ever been sexually active with, so i try to compromise with him. Instead of asking for breakfast lunch dinner and mid night snack, i know say "how about at least before we go to bed?" =)
It's a tough situation, but i know its a problem that is not worth me leaving him for. He is the perfect boyfriend in every way.
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I Have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. He is the perfect boyfriend to me and best father to my daughter, even though she is not his own. However, i too have the same issue, he does not want to have sex as much as i do! Yes, it is very frustrating! However he has been like this from the beginning, so i know its not that he got bored of me. He would always say that he did not want me to think that he only wanted to be with me for the sex, that he really did care.
September 27, 2009 - 10:18pmWe have talked about it many many many times, but it just seems to get no where. I never thought that I would ever have a problem like this. I was with my daughters father for over 5 years and i never wanted to have sex. I felt that once a week was still too much LOL. However, i now want it...as i tell him...breakfast lunch dinner and mid night snack; all the time!
I wonder if i have a problem, but then i ask myself "Isn't this an over all fantasy for any normal male? Having a girlfriend who wants to have sex all the time and never complains!". He is the best guy i have ever been with. When we do have sex we are both very satisfied, he has told me i am also the best he has ever had, so why doesn't he want to have it all the time?
His excuse is this: He was with his sons mother for about 7 years, off and on. He said he had a really high sex drive, wanted as much sex as me and she never gave it up. He says that he stopped asking for it cause he would never get it. He blames that for his ever so low sex drive. At first i was skeptical, i was insecure and thought that maybe his ex was a lot better looking than me and maybe that was the reason why he wanted her so much. However, i finally met her last week and ummmm i know i have nothing to worry about.
My friend does couples counseling and in a desperate need for answers, i vented to her about my issue. She said that he may have a different definition to what love means. I may need the sexual attention from my partner in order to feel loved, but he may not.
She also mentioned that he probably feels intimidated by my high sex drive and may make him feel as he is unable to satisfy me, which can also lower any persons sex drive.
I do suggest talking to your boyfriend about this issue, however do not expect for things to change over night! As i continue this relationship, i have learned not to pressure him as much and learned how to please myself in other ways =) I do not want to feel the need to cheat on him, especially since i know he is the best guy i have ever been sexually active with, so i try to compromise with him. Instead of asking for breakfast lunch dinner and mid night snack, i know say "how about at least before we go to bed?" =)
It's a tough situation, but i know its a problem that is not worth me leaving him for. He is the perfect boyfriend in every way.
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