I can't offer any practical help myself, but I strongly suggest you do speak to a counsellor as suggested above.
What your cousin did was a crime. You don't explicitly say he attacked you more than once or how old he was at the time but both of these affect how likely it is he will (or has) hurt others and a counsellor will be able to give you a clearer idea and hopefully reduice any guilt you may be feeling from worrying over that. They will also be able to understand the nature of your cousin's "reminder" not to tell anyone - whether he knows he did something wrong and is afraid of you, or if he is acting more negatively
My only comment is that by your silence you are protecting him. It's up to you to judge whether it's a good thing or a bad thing or if that has further implications. Again, a counsellor will be able to help you understand your motives for silence.
I'm glad you have a male friend you trust. It's a very positive step towards building trusting sexual relationships
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I can't offer any practical help myself, but I strongly suggest you do speak to a counsellor as suggested above.
What your cousin did was a crime. You don't explicitly say he attacked you more than once or how old he was at the time but both of these affect how likely it is he will (or has) hurt others and a counsellor will be able to give you a clearer idea and hopefully reduice any guilt you may be feeling from worrying over that. They will also be able to understand the nature of your cousin's "reminder" not to tell anyone - whether he knows he did something wrong and is afraid of you, or if he is acting more negatively
My only comment is that by your silence you are protecting him. It's up to you to judge whether it's a good thing or a bad thing or if that has further implications. Again, a counsellor will be able to help you understand your motives for silence.
I'm glad you have a male friend you trust. It's a very positive step towards building trusting sexual relationships
August 15, 2009 - 2:48pmThis Comment
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