I would like to add something here. I was also with a person who was addicted to pornography and it does create a huge problem in the relationship. This was a problem in mine since I am very sexually active myself and would prefer real sex versus self pleasures.
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I think the best thing to try is talk about it. This may be something you can enjoy together but if he chooses self pleasure all the time and you are lacking, there may be a better chance you will find someone different that will treat you the way you want. Think about it this way, there are several woman that do not care to have sex and being with a man addicted to self-pleasures would suffice them. You have your needs so go with them. Maybe finding someone new would be better in the long run for you. There are men that are addicted to pornography and would rather self pleasure. There are also men that enjoy the pleasures a woman bring.
In my experience, you cannot change someone, either you learn to deal with something you don't like or move on and find a better match. Thats my advise from an ex-porn addicted relationship. I hope this helps.
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I would like to add something here. I was also with a person who was addicted to pornography and it does create a huge problem in the relationship. This was a problem in mine since I am very sexually active myself and would prefer real sex versus self pleasures.
Please understand that this is not you in any means and not your fault either. Here are some more links from our site where you can read other reactions about this same subject.
www.empowher.com/community/share/sex-addiction
www.empowher.com/condition/sexual-health
I think the best thing to try is talk about it. This may be something you can enjoy together but if he chooses self pleasure all the time and you are lacking, there may be a better chance you will find someone different that will treat you the way you want. Think about it this way, there are several woman that do not care to have sex and being with a man addicted to self-pleasures would suffice them. You have your needs so go with them. Maybe finding someone new would be better in the long run for you. There are men that are addicted to pornography and would rather self pleasure. There are also men that enjoy the pleasures a woman bring.
In my experience, you cannot change someone, either you learn to deal with something you don't like or move on and find a better match. Thats my advise from an ex-porn addicted relationship. I hope this helps.
August 8, 2009 - 10:18amThis Comment
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