Lizzy, this is not your true love. It's not. This isn't how true love goes. What this is is a relationship between a controlling man and a woman that he wants to control.
Your relationship with this man is full of drama, which is not good for you and not good for your girls. Why do you think you won't leave him? Are you able to get a job? Is there anywhere else you could live?
You have been in an abusive relationship for so long that you may not even realize it anymore. But this is not normal and it's not right. Not one thing about it is right. Not one thing. You are sweet and loving and loyal, but it's still not getting you anywhere. That's what happens in a relationship where it is all about control.
If he hits you, that is assault. It is a crime. It is domestic abuse. It is not love or anything close. You need to get some counseling and some help to get out of the situation. If you or one of your girls are in immediate danger, you need to call 911.
Do you need help finding somewhere to take your girls and go? Do you feel worried for your girls? Are they safe just being around him, or does the abuse happen to them, too? Please tell us what city and state you live in, and we can help you find a safe place to go for shelter and help.
You can also go to the web page or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, where they will help you find somewhere you and your girls could go:
www.ndvh.org
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Does any of this help? Do you feel like you have options? Do you have other family or friends that would help you leave if you told them what was going on?
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Lizzy,
Deep breath.
Lizzy, this is not your true love. It's not. This isn't how true love goes. What this is is a relationship between a controlling man and a woman that he wants to control.
Your relationship with this man is full of drama, which is not good for you and not good for your girls. Why do you think you won't leave him? Are you able to get a job? Is there anywhere else you could live?
You have been in an abusive relationship for so long that you may not even realize it anymore. But this is not normal and it's not right. Not one thing about it is right. Not one thing. You are sweet and loving and loyal, but it's still not getting you anywhere. That's what happens in a relationship where it is all about control.
If he hits you, that is assault. It is a crime. It is domestic abuse. It is not love or anything close. You need to get some counseling and some help to get out of the situation. If you or one of your girls are in immediate danger, you need to call 911.
Do you need help finding somewhere to take your girls and go? Do you feel worried for your girls? Are they safe just being around him, or does the abuse happen to them, too? Please tell us what city and state you live in, and we can help you find a safe place to go for shelter and help.
You can also go to the web page or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, where they will help you find somewhere you and your girls could go:
www.ndvh.org
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Does any of this help? Do you feel like you have options? Do you have other family or friends that would help you leave if you told them what was going on?
August 25, 2009 - 8:26amThis Comment
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