Cyndi Lu,
I sympathize with your situation. How hard it must be for you to hear the "nice" person on the phone, while still fearing the threats of the mean one.
You did the right thing by leaving, and you are doing the right thing by trying to stay away. If he wants to get better, he needs to be in treatment and taking his meds -- not threatening you one day and apologizing the next.
If he does go back to treatment and taking his meds, things may feel differently to you. But you shouldn't feel responsible for him, and you don't want to live like this -- being pulled in two directions constantly. You are a thoughtful and giving soul, but only he can take the steps to become steady and responsible for his own condition.
I'm glad it's getting a little easier for you day by day. Take care, and please continue to update us. Others in relationships with bipolar people may be able to learn from your experiences as well.
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Cyndi Lu,
I sympathize with your situation. How hard it must be for you to hear the "nice" person on the phone, while still fearing the threats of the mean one.
You did the right thing by leaving, and you are doing the right thing by trying to stay away. If he wants to get better, he needs to be in treatment and taking his meds -- not threatening you one day and apologizing the next.
If he does go back to treatment and taking his meds, things may feel differently to you. But you shouldn't feel responsible for him, and you don't want to live like this -- being pulled in two directions constantly. You are a thoughtful and giving soul, but only he can take the steps to become steady and responsible for his own condition.
I'm glad it's getting a little easier for you day by day. Take care, and please continue to update us. Others in relationships with bipolar people may be able to learn from your experiences as well.
October 7, 2009 - 9:08amThis Comment
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