I would like to echo the great advice Alison gave you, and I'm also interested in this: You said you walked away from him a month ago, but had nowhere else to go, so you went back.
What was his response when you left? Did the two of you have any of this discussion then?
If it seems that the only thing keeping you there is the fact that you don't know where to go, please think about what your plan would be. You sound like a smart, thoughtful, responsible woman who wants a lot out of life. Can you save money so that you could get your own apartment? Do you have a good girlfriend who would let you stay with her for a while?
What do you want in your life, Anon, besides intimacy? Are you hoping for marriage or children, and if so, have you talked with your boyfriend about these things? Do you feel that the two of you have made a commitment to a life together? Do you want that?
The fact that the two of you clicked mentally and enjoyed each other's company for a long time tells me that there was more compatibility there than just sexually. So I don't think you just "fooled yourself with lust." There seems to have been more to it than that. But without that aspect of the relationship, you are feeling disconnected and not in sync.
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Anon,
I would like to echo the great advice Alison gave you, and I'm also interested in this: You said you walked away from him a month ago, but had nowhere else to go, so you went back.
What was his response when you left? Did the two of you have any of this discussion then?
If it seems that the only thing keeping you there is the fact that you don't know where to go, please think about what your plan would be. You sound like a smart, thoughtful, responsible woman who wants a lot out of life. Can you save money so that you could get your own apartment? Do you have a good girlfriend who would let you stay with her for a while?
What do you want in your life, Anon, besides intimacy? Are you hoping for marriage or children, and if so, have you talked with your boyfriend about these things? Do you feel that the two of you have made a commitment to a life together? Do you want that?
The fact that the two of you clicked mentally and enjoyed each other's company for a long time tells me that there was more compatibility there than just sexually. So I don't think you just "fooled yourself with lust." There seems to have been more to it than that. But without that aspect of the relationship, you are feeling disconnected and not in sync.
Do you think he would go to counseling with you?
October 5, 2009 - 9:01amThis Comment
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