I am very sorry you and your husband have hit rocky road but I am going to give you a bit of tough love...
If you have seen inappropriate conversations through email and text messaging and he is "flirting" with a woman to the point where she is sending him "sexy" pictures of herself, then there is something more going on than shameless flirting. IF he has not cheated, it's only a matter of time. I hate not to give your husband the benefit of the doubt here but, in my marriage, photos of other women and flirty chats are unacceptable and definitely in the cheating zone.
I truly understand your sympathy from him being in the military but let's be honest-- that doesn't make it right nor does it give him leeway to do what he is doing. When you say that it stops after you confront him, it probably doesn't stop he just does a better job of hiding it from you until he thinks you've forgotten and then you find him again.
Based on your original post I can tell you really love him and want to save your marriage. If he feels the same way you do perhaps he will consider going to counseling with you in order to subdue this so called flirt syndrome he has.
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luv2sing33,
I am very sorry you and your husband have hit rocky road but I am going to give you a bit of tough love...
If you have seen inappropriate conversations through email and text messaging and he is "flirting" with a woman to the point where she is sending him "sexy" pictures of herself, then there is something more going on than shameless flirting. IF he has not cheated, it's only a matter of time. I hate not to give your husband the benefit of the doubt here but, in my marriage, photos of other women and flirty chats are unacceptable and definitely in the cheating zone.
I truly understand your sympathy from him being in the military but let's be honest-- that doesn't make it right nor does it give him leeway to do what he is doing. When you say that it stops after you confront him, it probably doesn't stop he just does a better job of hiding it from you until he thinks you've forgotten and then you find him again.
Based on your original post I can tell you really love him and want to save your marriage. If he feels the same way you do perhaps he will consider going to counseling with you in order to subdue this so called flirt syndrome he has.
Good luck-- let us know how things go.
October 6, 2009 - 5:48amThis Comment
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