Thank you...I agree with what you are saying, that helps a lot. I'm glad I found this website. I believe you are right about his fear of being intimate may take too long because he's always in a rush in the morning. Saturday he gets up and works and sometimes has conference calls at his house. Last Sunday he had a conference call at 8pm. The last few weeks we've only seen eachother on weekends. I also agree that I need to be patient. I've never had a situation where I was the one needing more sex.
I don't mind us spending some time apart, although I miss him during the week. I've gotten use to this because I work evening shift so I stay at my place during the week because he's sound asleep and I don't want to wake him. My frustration comes from being afraid to initiate or even touch him, for fear of being "turned down." (Of course we still cuddle and all that good stuff). I know he is attracted to me, it has just made it unnatural to me since I cannot initiate anything. It's all when it's convenient for him. And that is the part that frustrates me. Because I find I'm not being as relaxed and spontaneous. And because I've read so many statistics about how many times couples have sex per week. It makes me wonder "shouldn't we be doing it more often?" I never worried about this when I was younger. I have thought about "taking a break from sex" and working on it when it comes back to being spontaneous later. But I also don't want to withhold sex because I feel like that is playing a game and I might cave into sex when I'm trying to withhold it. I just wish the sex could be on both of our terms rather than just his. It makes it much more pleasant.
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Thank you...I agree with what you are saying, that helps a lot. I'm glad I found this website. I believe you are right about his fear of being intimate may take too long because he's always in a rush in the morning. Saturday he gets up and works and sometimes has conference calls at his house. Last Sunday he had a conference call at 8pm. The last few weeks we've only seen eachother on weekends. I also agree that I need to be patient. I've never had a situation where I was the one needing more sex.
I don't mind us spending some time apart, although I miss him during the week. I've gotten use to this because I work evening shift so I stay at my place during the week because he's sound asleep and I don't want to wake him. My frustration comes from being afraid to initiate or even touch him, for fear of being "turned down." (Of course we still cuddle and all that good stuff). I know he is attracted to me, it has just made it unnatural to me since I cannot initiate anything. It's all when it's convenient for him. And that is the part that frustrates me. Because I find I'm not being as relaxed and spontaneous. And because I've read so many statistics about how many times couples have sex per week. It makes me wonder "shouldn't we be doing it more often?" I never worried about this when I was younger. I have thought about "taking a break from sex" and working on it when it comes back to being spontaneous later. But I also don't want to withhold sex because I feel like that is playing a game and I might cave into sex when I'm trying to withhold it. I just wish the sex could be on both of our terms rather than just his. It makes it much more pleasant.
October 16, 2009 - 9:49amThis Comment
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