Dear anon, thanks for your question and welcome to EmpowHer.
I am sorry to say that your boyfriend is simply using you as a means to fulfill his own needs. Meaning: he is only having sex with you to fill an urge when he gets horny. Are you on birth control pills? If not, I would strongly suggest being very stern about not having sex without condoms, otherwise, what will happen if you get pregnant?
I hate to bring this up but it does seem that you do not enjoy sex for two reasons: He doesn't respect your decision to wear a condom and there is no passion in the sex because of his selfishness and lack of emotion.
No, sex is not like in the movies but it should be pleasurable for both you and him-- not one-sided. Usually in the beginning of a relationship, the sex is fantastic then it may fizzle a little after a few years but you pointed out that it has never been great. It may be time to move on. Not just because of the sex but because, based on what you wrote, it seems as though the love and passion is gone.
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Dear anon, thanks for your question and welcome to EmpowHer.
I am sorry to say that your boyfriend is simply using you as a means to fulfill his own needs. Meaning: he is only having sex with you to fill an urge when he gets horny. Are you on birth control pills? If not, I would strongly suggest being very stern about not having sex without condoms, otherwise, what will happen if you get pregnant?
I hate to bring this up but it does seem that you do not enjoy sex for two reasons: He doesn't respect your decision to wear a condom and there is no passion in the sex because of his selfishness and lack of emotion.
No, sex is not like in the movies but it should be pleasurable for both you and him-- not one-sided. Usually in the beginning of a relationship, the sex is fantastic then it may fizzle a little after a few years but you pointed out that it has never been great. It may be time to move on. Not just because of the sex but because, based on what you wrote, it seems as though the love and passion is gone.
Please keep us posted and good luck to you.
October 28, 2009 - 5:28amThis Comment
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