I am sorry that your husband is unable to communicate with you, and even more importantly, that he is lacking the empathy toward your pain and sadness. This is the most crucial point in your original question...whether the topic be about sex, finances, child-rearing, elderly care, major medical trauma...it is scary to think that he will not listen or speak with you about your concerns now, and I wonder how he is with other topics? Does he consistently show his displeasure through sarcasm and refusing to problem-solve on other topics, or sex only? Can you look down the road, and see if he would also refuse to communicate and show little/no empathy towards other concerns...say if there were a crisis when you needed him most?
We can all guess and wonder what the issue is (sexual dysfunction, affair, loss-of-interest, low sex drive, etc., etc.) but without his desire to communicate openly and honestly with you...we are unable to read his mind and understand his specific fears and concerns. This is the most concerning part of the relationship.
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I am sorry that your husband is unable to communicate with you, and even more importantly, that he is lacking the empathy toward your pain and sadness. This is the most crucial point in your original question...whether the topic be about sex, finances, child-rearing, elderly care, major medical trauma...it is scary to think that he will not listen or speak with you about your concerns now, and I wonder how he is with other topics? Does he consistently show his displeasure through sarcasm and refusing to problem-solve on other topics, or sex only? Can you look down the road, and see if he would also refuse to communicate and show little/no empathy towards other concerns...say if there were a crisis when you needed him most?
We can all guess and wonder what the issue is (sexual dysfunction, affair, loss-of-interest, low sex drive, etc., etc.) but without his desire to communicate openly and honestly with you...we are unable to read his mind and understand his specific fears and concerns. This is the most concerning part of the relationship.
Hopefully this will help, from our sexual health expert, Dr. Marty Klein: Married for 18 years and sex nonexistent; what should I do?.
Please let us know how else we can help, and what you think of Dr. Klein's post.
October 29, 2009 - 12:49pmThis Comment
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