I also think the way you word your situation is key, too. Many adults when they hear the word "girlfriend and boyfriend" may worry that this is equivalent to having a physical relationship (including sex), which is not the case.
Instead of telling your parents a label that has different meanings in the different generations, telling your parents the truth about your feelings is more important, just like you told us: "I like [name] and he says he likes me, too".
Is there something you want/need from your parents? Do you want to see your "boyfriend" more often, go on a "date" by yourself, or have their support in being able to talk with them about your feelings for him? Again, even the word "date" can have different meanings, so just tell them specifically what you would like to do (invite [name] over for dinner and movie without parental interruption, for example).
I think if you pinpoint your reasons for wanting to tell your parents about you liking a boy, they will want to hear that you like him, and will feel that you are being honest. You can ask about rules for seeing him, and your parents may want you to see him only with a group of friends until you are 16 (and able to drive, for instance), and if alone, only when parents are home at either house. Totally understandable and not too strict for your age. Rules will change when you are 16, then 18, then 20 and so on... When you are 18, you are an adult..so your parents can't tell you not to date anyone until you are 27...LOL!
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I also think the way you word your situation is key, too. Many adults when they hear the word "girlfriend and boyfriend" may worry that this is equivalent to having a physical relationship (including sex), which is not the case.
Instead of telling your parents a label that has different meanings in the different generations, telling your parents the truth about your feelings is more important, just like you told us: "I like [name] and he says he likes me, too".
Is there something you want/need from your parents? Do you want to see your "boyfriend" more often, go on a "date" by yourself, or have their support in being able to talk with them about your feelings for him? Again, even the word "date" can have different meanings, so just tell them specifically what you would like to do (invite [name] over for dinner and movie without parental interruption, for example).
I think if you pinpoint your reasons for wanting to tell your parents about you liking a boy, they will want to hear that you like him, and will feel that you are being honest. You can ask about rules for seeing him, and your parents may want you to see him only with a group of friends until you are 16 (and able to drive, for instance), and if alone, only when parents are home at either house. Totally understandable and not too strict for your age. Rules will change when you are 16, then 18, then 20 and so on... When you are 18, you are an adult..so your parents can't tell you not to date anyone until you are 27...LOL!
Does this help?
November 1, 2009 - 9:20amThis Comment
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