Being in love and having children with someone make it very difficult to separate yourself. I think the best advice I can give you is that if you've decided not to be together and he is in fact married to someone else, you should take a long break from calling each other, unless it's specifically about the children. Just because you don't have a relationship doesn't mean the feelings are going to go away...you're allowed to have those feelngs and to be in love with someone without acting on these feelings or being with the person. However, the marriage factor really does make it inappropriate to pursue the relationship with him. I would try counseling, meditation and TIME to get over him.... time and distance really do help. Just as with any strong feelings, they dissipate over time.
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Lisa01,
Being in love and having children with someone make it very difficult to separate yourself. I think the best advice I can give you is that if you've decided not to be together and he is in fact married to someone else, you should take a long break from calling each other, unless it's specifically about the children. Just because you don't have a relationship doesn't mean the feelings are going to go away...you're allowed to have those feelngs and to be in love with someone without acting on these feelings or being with the person. However, the marriage factor really does make it inappropriate to pursue the relationship with him. I would try counseling, meditation and TIME to get over him.... time and distance really do help. Just as with any strong feelings, they dissipate over time.
Take care,
Aimee
July 15, 2010 - 11:03amThis Comment
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