Fatigue from working a 24 hour job everyday (plus a paying job if you are not a SAHM) can certainly take its toll on you and sex may very well be the last thing on your mind. Do you and your fiance ever get a day to yourselves? If not, maybe you would consider having a date night once a week even if you just stay home and have some drinks or watch a movie together. Have a relative or someone you trust watch your little guy for a couple of hours while you and your fiance catch up, relax, and can be intimate without any stress.
It seems as though you are not able to relax and stay in the moment because there is something in the back of your mind-- whether it be home related, work related, or related to your toddler. Try to clear the mind before engaging in sex-- make sure everything is in order, the baby is being looked after or sleeping safely in bed and forget everything and everyone else-- just enjoy the sex.
Hope this helps and like Susan said, you may want to have your thyroid checked out as well as blood work because these may reveal any unwarranted remnants of having a child. Good Luck!
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Amanda,
Susan gave you some great advice and information.
Fatigue from working a 24 hour job everyday (plus a paying job if you are not a SAHM) can certainly take its toll on you and sex may very well be the last thing on your mind. Do you and your fiance ever get a day to yourselves? If not, maybe you would consider having a date night once a week even if you just stay home and have some drinks or watch a movie together. Have a relative or someone you trust watch your little guy for a couple of hours while you and your fiance catch up, relax, and can be intimate without any stress.
It seems as though you are not able to relax and stay in the moment because there is something in the back of your mind-- whether it be home related, work related, or related to your toddler. Try to clear the mind before engaging in sex-- make sure everything is in order, the baby is being looked after or sleeping safely in bed and forget everything and everyone else-- just enjoy the sex.
Hope this helps and like Susan said, you may want to have your thyroid checked out as well as blood work because these may reveal any unwarranted remnants of having a child. Good Luck!
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