Thanks so much. My period was three fridays ago and no it isnt regular yet(wish it was). It comes between the 19th to the 28th day so i cant really say when its coming again but it should be anytime from now though.
i know u are not a personal issue or marriage cousellor but i really need someone to talk to so i might as well talk to you, but you dont have to comment on it if you dont want to ok. I just need to let it out.
I am canadian and a pharmacy student, My boyfriend is mexican(which is where the whole problem lies), has two degrees on computer science and electrical engineering, has his masters and doing his doctorate right now, and has a job with direct energy. We met in church two years ago, he proposed to me three months ago which i refused because i want to graduate from the university first but i really love him though.
He went ahead to go talk to my mom about the marriage thing, she was all positive with him, but called me and lashed me with all sorts of reasons about why i shouldnt marry a mexican and of course she was crying.
my dad doesnt support it either, he's been fighting me with everything he's got as well. They like him but they just dont like the fact that he is mexican and they also fear that we may decide to move to mexico one day after we marry(they dont want me far away from them, my boyfriend and i had actually talked about how we would move to mexico after having our two kids, that was before he proposed). They keep telling me "if only you would find a canadian like him, who is literate, God-fearing, and has a good job like him, we would be ok and thats all we are asking". Like its that easy. I care so much about my parents and i love my boyfriend too. i just dont know what to do and i dont want to make my decision too soon, which is why my boyfriend always says the only way for him to get me is if he gets me pregnant somehow.
My parents are christians so we both know they would have me marry him before my pregnancy even shows than have a baby without being married. But i dont want it that way because, i promised God i wouldnt have sex before i get married, i am still in the universityand so wont really do well with a baby right now, and i want my marriage to him to be on a clear grounds
not out of frustration(pregnancy), plus my troublesome parents made me promise i wouldnt get pregnant for him and to try to find another canadian friend, which i all agreed to because i didnt want anymore stress in my life at that time(3 months ago). i had no intetion of keeping that promise then, but i have been thinking about it because i really love my mom and knowing it would bring her joy makes me want to do it, but at the same time i love that guy, but for now i really dont know what i want to do.
All this is why i freaked out after we almost had sex 5days ago, i dont want to let God, mom, myself(most especially), and my family down, they are the reason i had been a virgin in the first place which made me proud(virginity). Mom is like an egg to me, i dont want her to break. Or a flower i dont want her to fade away as a result of too much thought, i would fade away as well.
Thanks Diane Porter, i know this is really a lot of information and a lot to read, but i feel better having let it out, i havent really had anyone to talk to about it, my mom is the only one i run to when i have problems but since she is being selfish on this one and would rather not hear about it anymore, its been a source of stress ever since. And again you dont have to comment on it ok.
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Thanks so much. My period was three fridays ago and no it isnt regular yet(wish it was). It comes between the 19th to the 28th day so i cant really say when its coming again but it should be anytime from now though.
i know u are not a personal issue or marriage cousellor but i really need someone to talk to so i might as well talk to you, but you dont have to comment on it if you dont want to ok. I just need to let it out.
I am canadian and a pharmacy student, My boyfriend is mexican(which is where the whole problem lies), has two degrees on computer science and electrical engineering, has his masters and doing his doctorate right now, and has a job with direct energy. We met in church two years ago, he proposed to me three months ago which i refused because i want to graduate from the university first but i really love him though.
He went ahead to go talk to my mom about the marriage thing, she was all positive with him, but called me and lashed me with all sorts of reasons about why i shouldnt marry a mexican and of course she was crying.
my dad doesnt support it either, he's been fighting me with everything he's got as well. They like him but they just dont like the fact that he is mexican and they also fear that we may decide to move to mexico one day after we marry(they dont want me far away from them, my boyfriend and i had actually talked about how we would move to mexico after having our two kids, that was before he proposed). They keep telling me "if only you would find a canadian like him, who is literate, God-fearing, and has a good job like him, we would be ok and thats all we are asking". Like its that easy. I care so much about my parents and i love my boyfriend too. i just dont know what to do and i dont want to make my decision too soon, which is why my boyfriend always says the only way for him to get me is if he gets me pregnant somehow.
My parents are christians so we both know they would have me marry him before my pregnancy even shows than have a baby without being married. But i dont want it that way because, i promised God i wouldnt have sex before i get married, i am still in the universityand so wont really do well with a baby right now, and i want my marriage to him to be on a clear grounds
not out of frustration(pregnancy), plus my troublesome parents made me promise i wouldnt get pregnant for him and to try to find another canadian friend, which i all agreed to because i didnt want anymore stress in my life at that time(3 months ago). i had no intetion of keeping that promise then, but i have been thinking about it because i really love my mom and knowing it would bring her joy makes me want to do it, but at the same time i love that guy, but for now i really dont know what i want to do.
All this is why i freaked out after we almost had sex 5days ago, i dont want to let God, mom, myself(most especially), and my family down, they are the reason i had been a virgin in the first place which made me proud(virginity). Mom is like an egg to me, i dont want her to break. Or a flower i dont want her to fade away as a result of too much thought, i would fade away as well.
November 10, 2009 - 12:18pmThanks Diane Porter, i know this is really a lot of information and a lot to read, but i feel better having let it out, i havent really had anyone to talk to about it, my mom is the only one i run to when i have problems but since she is being selfish on this one and would rather not hear about it anymore, its been a source of stress ever since. And again you dont have to comment on it ok.
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