Vyckie nowhere hides that she was a strong proponent of the QF movement while she was involved in it. She herself links to her old blog on her site. It makes her point for her quite well, that in order to keep from facing the truth about how the pregnancies were ruining her health, her children were not all that blessed unless you call congenital birth defects a blessing, and her husband (like most Christian men) only gave lip service to loving his wife "like Christ loves the church", it requires a whole lot of denial and posturing. Her blog and her newsletter were as much to convince herself that she was doing it all the godly way and that everything would eventually work out, as it was to convince anyone else.
What I get out of her story, and all the home school families like hers that I have known over the years, is that women hope for a very long time, far longer than they should. They keep waiting for the joy and provision and blessing that they were promised: loving husbands, happy and grateful children, provision for all. It never comes, so they just wait. And wait. And wait some more.
The problem is that they have engaged in behaviors that mean those things won't come- having more children than they could possibly personally meet their emotional needs, much less social, health, academic, food and clothing needs. You can only live in denial so long before something has to give.
Wealthy families (TV stars like the Duggars, for example) can at least meet the physical needs. The social and emotional needs, not so much. I personally think the only reason A &E keeps the Duggars on is for the coming sequel, when one of the kids leaves the fold and tells all. THAT will be the ratings bonanza they are hoping for!
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Vyckie nowhere hides that she was a strong proponent of the QF movement while she was involved in it. She herself links to her old blog on her site. It makes her point for her quite well, that in order to keep from facing the truth about how the pregnancies were ruining her health, her children were not all that blessed unless you call congenital birth defects a blessing, and her husband (like most Christian men) only gave lip service to loving his wife "like Christ loves the church", it requires a whole lot of denial and posturing. Her blog and her newsletter were as much to convince herself that she was doing it all the godly way and that everything would eventually work out, as it was to convince anyone else.
What I get out of her story, and all the home school families like hers that I have known over the years, is that women hope for a very long time, far longer than they should. They keep waiting for the joy and provision and blessing that they were promised: loving husbands, happy and grateful children, provision for all. It never comes, so they just wait. And wait. And wait some more.
The problem is that they have engaged in behaviors that mean those things won't come- having more children than they could possibly personally meet their emotional needs, much less social, health, academic, food and clothing needs. You can only live in denial so long before something has to give.
Wealthy families (TV stars like the Duggars, for example) can at least meet the physical needs. The social and emotional needs, not so much. I personally think the only reason A &E keeps the Duggars on is for the coming sequel, when one of the kids leaves the fold and tells all. THAT will be the ratings bonanza they are hoping for!
August 27, 2011 - 11:13amThis Comment
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