Thank you for your question and I am certainly sorry to hear about your difficulties because I know this causes insecurities about yourself. I am very familiar with the situation that you are in as I was also in a similar situation. Let me explain my situation which may help you.
I was in a very loving relationship where my boyfriend was unable to ejaculate at times. This was very confusing and it caused me to feel very insecure about our relationship. Much of the problem was what satisfied him. What turned him on and what he expected from me. I was very happy with his sexual contact with me but there were things that he needed to help him enjoy his time.
Talk to him about it all and ask him what you can do. Try to make him comfortable enough to explain what he likes and what he wants you to do. Give him an open forum. Then you must try and try until you get it right. You love this guy, right? You will try to do anything to satisfy him. The only way that you will be able to fix it is if he is honest with you about what he wants or how he likes sex.
I hope this helps. Just remember it is not you. It may be something simple as mine was at the time. Maybe your previous time together wasn't as loving as it is this time around and he is more in tune with you as a wife instead of a girlfriend and the sexual relationship may differ in his mind. Be open minded about what he tells you but communication is key here.
Please keep us updated on what happens.
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Hi Seahorse,
Thank you for your question and I am certainly sorry to hear about your difficulties because I know this causes insecurities about yourself. I am very familiar with the situation that you are in as I was also in a similar situation. Let me explain my situation which may help you.
I was in a very loving relationship where my boyfriend was unable to ejaculate at times. This was very confusing and it caused me to feel very insecure about our relationship. Much of the problem was what satisfied him. What turned him on and what he expected from me. I was very happy with his sexual contact with me but there were things that he needed to help him enjoy his time.
Talk to him about it all and ask him what you can do. Try to make him comfortable enough to explain what he likes and what he wants you to do. Give him an open forum. Then you must try and try until you get it right. You love this guy, right? You will try to do anything to satisfy him. The only way that you will be able to fix it is if he is honest with you about what he wants or how he likes sex.
I hope this helps. Just remember it is not you. It may be something simple as mine was at the time. Maybe your previous time together wasn't as loving as it is this time around and he is more in tune with you as a wife instead of a girlfriend and the sexual relationship may differ in his mind. Be open minded about what he tells you but communication is key here.
November 21, 2009 - 11:21amPlease keep us updated on what happens.
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