Thank you for your story Lonesome. There appears to be so much going on in your relationship that you are questioning. It is hard to sort out everything at once. Is it the lack of sex that is causing you to write in and question your feelings? This appears to be the main focus of the discussion so I will try and comment on that.
The first thing I would ask you to do, (as I am assuming you are back to sex time), is have sex 7 days in a row with your mate. No holds barred and put your feelings aside. Ask him to join you in the sex-capade. This week of enjoyment tends to release all the tension of being turned down, not having sex for a period of time due to his beliefs and see what happens. Even if it is only a 2 minute sex-capade, just do it.
Many psychologists will try this method as it tends to break up the monotony of 'who initiated the sex' and so forth. Each day, one or the other initiates. Like I mentioned earlier, no holds barred. Don't take anything personal for one week and as Michael Jordon coined, “Just Do It!”
I hope this helps out the relationship. If there is something else that you want us to mention specifics about, please let me know. I know that just writing this question probably made you feel better.
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Thank you for your story Lonesome. There appears to be so much going on in your relationship that you are questioning. It is hard to sort out everything at once. Is it the lack of sex that is causing you to write in and question your feelings? This appears to be the main focus of the discussion so I will try and comment on that.
The first thing I would ask you to do, (as I am assuming you are back to sex time), is have sex 7 days in a row with your mate. No holds barred and put your feelings aside. Ask him to join you in the sex-capade. This week of enjoyment tends to release all the tension of being turned down, not having sex for a period of time due to his beliefs and see what happens. Even if it is only a 2 minute sex-capade, just do it.
Many psychologists will try this method as it tends to break up the monotony of 'who initiated the sex' and so forth. Each day, one or the other initiates. Like I mentioned earlier, no holds barred. Don't take anything personal for one week and as Michael Jordon coined, “Just Do It!”
I hope this helps out the relationship. If there is something else that you want us to mention specifics about, please let me know. I know that just writing this question probably made you feel better.
Please keep us updated.
November 28, 2009 - 10:30amThis Comment
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