I'm so happy to see I'm not alone in the world. Not happy for you guys (if you're feeling how I've been feeling, you probably feel pretty crappy) just happy I am not the only odd one suffering through this. My boyfriend and I have been together two years. In the beginning we had sex often and intensely. I know sex changes over time but we are only 22! We went from having sex daily, sometimes 3-4 times daily to every 2,3 even 4 weeks. And when we do have sex, it's like a chore to him. I initiate it and he huffs and puffs and does it to shut me up. Somehow within the last 8 months I conceived our daughter. I'm not 29 weeks pregnant and our sex life has completely stopped! His excuse most of the time is that he's tired, but when I catch him full of energy, he gets angry and says sex isn't important he has more important things to worry about. We've been living together and he does come home at night but I'm not sure if when he goes to hang out with friends that's what he's doing. He doesn't have the signs I've seen before of cheating but what else could it be? I've NEVER been denied and for him to do it so easily and so often, I find myself feeling humiliated, unwanted and extremely insecure, which only gives him "a reason" to get upset and not want to have sex with me. And forget bringing up counseling that's a curse word in his mind... I'm so frustrated with this relationship. Of course I want it to work I mean we are having a baby I love him with all my heart we live together! But I can't say I haven't thought about looking elsewhere to fulfil my desires. I feel like a slut even thinking it, and I'd never do it while I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure what to do at this point. I know sex isn't THEE most important thing in a relationship but I was under the impression that it IS a significant part of a healthy relationship. Am I crazy? I feel like it!
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I'm so happy to see I'm not alone in the world. Not happy for you guys (if you're feeling how I've been feeling, you probably feel pretty crappy) just happy I am not the only odd one suffering through this. My boyfriend and I have been together two years. In the beginning we had sex often and intensely. I know sex changes over time but we are only 22! We went from having sex daily, sometimes 3-4 times daily to every 2,3 even 4 weeks. And when we do have sex, it's like a chore to him. I initiate it and he huffs and puffs and does it to shut me up. Somehow within the last 8 months I conceived our daughter. I'm not 29 weeks pregnant and our sex life has completely stopped! His excuse most of the time is that he's tired, but when I catch him full of energy, he gets angry and says sex isn't important he has more important things to worry about. We've been living together and he does come home at night but I'm not sure if when he goes to hang out with friends that's what he's doing. He doesn't have the signs I've seen before of cheating but what else could it be? I've NEVER been denied and for him to do it so easily and so often, I find myself feeling humiliated, unwanted and extremely insecure, which only gives him "a reason" to get upset and not want to have sex with me. And forget bringing up counseling that's a curse word in his mind... I'm so frustrated with this relationship. Of course I want it to work I mean we are having a baby I love him with all my heart we live together! But I can't say I haven't thought about looking elsewhere to fulfil my desires. I feel like a slut even thinking it, and I'd never do it while I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure what to do at this point. I know sex isn't THEE most important thing in a relationship but I was under the impression that it IS a significant part of a healthy relationship. Am I crazy? I feel like it!
July 2, 2016 - 9:42amThis Comment
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