Hello Everyone,
I also face the same problem with my boyfriend. We've been dating for almost 3 years and for a while we've been having sex every 10 days - once a week if I'm lucky. We always argue about this. It enrages me that he used to say it was because he's old (he's 26 years older than me) until I found him watching porn and naked pictures of other woman. I know he masturbates and doesn't have the balls to own up to it. He gets offended when I call him out on it. When we started dating I weighed 130 ish lbs but as our relationship progressed so did our weight. I gained weight up to 165 lbs. I exercise on and off and have manage to go down to 150 lbs. I'm working to loose the weight but he doesn't seem to care unless there are actual results. He said he doesn't care what I do as long as I'm happy but if I expect him to be interested I need to loose weight; otherwise, I can continue eating just don't expect him to be interested. I understand what he's saying; after all, society demands women to look a certain way. I just wished he said that when we first started dating because it would have been easier to keep in eye on my weight and lose more. I don't know if I should but I love him. I want to make our relationship work. He is a great guy but he's just not interested in me. I don't know if I should let him touch me when he does because then I crave his touch more. He makes me happy in so many ways but in this part of our life, I'm crushed by his rejection. I mean he's twice my age, if he's not interested in me then what guy my age would be. I hate how much this gets to me. I feel ugly and grotesque. Sometimes when we do it he closes his eyes and I wonder if he's thinking of someone else. I wish I didn't care or wasn't interested in pleasing him in the bedroom. I mean i was expecting our relationship to hit a slump - they always do- it just feels to early for ours and I'm not sure if after I lose the weight he'll be interested or if he is just pulling my leg. I wouldn't mind him watching porn or masturbating if he satisfied me, but he doesn't seem to care to. I don't want to feel pain but i also have needs to be met. If i wanted to masturbate I would just be single. He wants me in his life but he doesn't want me physically and that doesn't make sense to me. What kind of love is that? He doesn't like the idea of me being with someone else to fulfill my needs. I've asked if he would like an open relationship - I mean he already thinks of having sex with other woman, touching them wouldn't face me at this point at least then I wouldn't be so sexually frustrated and i'd stop hounding him. If two people are interested in having a relationship shouldn't they both work to fix the problem? What should I do? Is this normal? Am I wasting my time? Is it worth the effort? I just want to be appreciated by him. I wouldn't focus so much on it if I didn't feel I was missing out on it or wanted it. I wish I didn't love him so much.
Sincerely,
A Broken hearted woman pining for attention.
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Hello Everyone,
I also face the same problem with my boyfriend. We've been dating for almost 3 years and for a while we've been having sex every 10 days - once a week if I'm lucky. We always argue about this. It enrages me that he used to say it was because he's old (he's 26 years older than me) until I found him watching porn and naked pictures of other woman. I know he masturbates and doesn't have the balls to own up to it. He gets offended when I call him out on it. When we started dating I weighed 130 ish lbs but as our relationship progressed so did our weight. I gained weight up to 165 lbs. I exercise on and off and have manage to go down to 150 lbs. I'm working to loose the weight but he doesn't seem to care unless there are actual results. He said he doesn't care what I do as long as I'm happy but if I expect him to be interested I need to loose weight; otherwise, I can continue eating just don't expect him to be interested. I understand what he's saying; after all, society demands women to look a certain way. I just wished he said that when we first started dating because it would have been easier to keep in eye on my weight and lose more. I don't know if I should but I love him. I want to make our relationship work. He is a great guy but he's just not interested in me. I don't know if I should let him touch me when he does because then I crave his touch more. He makes me happy in so many ways but in this part of our life, I'm crushed by his rejection. I mean he's twice my age, if he's not interested in me then what guy my age would be. I hate how much this gets to me. I feel ugly and grotesque. Sometimes when we do it he closes his eyes and I wonder if he's thinking of someone else. I wish I didn't care or wasn't interested in pleasing him in the bedroom. I mean i was expecting our relationship to hit a slump - they always do- it just feels to early for ours and I'm not sure if after I lose the weight he'll be interested or if he is just pulling my leg. I wouldn't mind him watching porn or masturbating if he satisfied me, but he doesn't seem to care to. I don't want to feel pain but i also have needs to be met. If i wanted to masturbate I would just be single. He wants me in his life but he doesn't want me physically and that doesn't make sense to me. What kind of love is that? He doesn't like the idea of me being with someone else to fulfill my needs. I've asked if he would like an open relationship - I mean he already thinks of having sex with other woman, touching them wouldn't face me at this point at least then I wouldn't be so sexually frustrated and i'd stop hounding him. If two people are interested in having a relationship shouldn't they both work to fix the problem? What should I do? Is this normal? Am I wasting my time? Is it worth the effort? I just want to be appreciated by him. I wouldn't focus so much on it if I didn't feel I was missing out on it or wanted it. I wish I didn't love him so much.
Sincerely,
December 23, 2016 - 5:34pmA Broken hearted woman pining for attention.
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