I've been having the same problem. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. We were both virgins and 5 months into the relationship we had sex. He seemed fine with it, but we haven't since. He's afraid of sex. He'll lead me on constantly, but never actually follow through. It's so frustrating and it makes me feel bad about myself a lot. It doesn't matter what I do or say.. He will not have sex with me anymore. It's put a huge strain on our relationship and anytime I want to talk about it, he doesn't wanna hear it. I'm completely at a loss. It's been well over a year and a half since we have and I've pretty much given up. I'm at the point now that if we do have sex again it won't feel right. Like there's nothing to it because I just forced him. And when we don't I always feel like there's something wrong with me.. Like I'm not good enough to make him want to. Another part of me just wants to cut him off completely for any sexual activity in the relationship until things get resolved. It's not fair to me. I get a birth control shot (more effective than the pill) and he always wants to use condoms so I don't see what the big deal is with him. I don't want to give up on us but I'm not sure how long we can't keep this up. I think it's sad when the girl in the relationship is the one begging for sex or any like-affection. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've pretty much given up hope. I don't even like to talk about the subject with him or anyone.. It still makes me so upset.
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I've been having the same problem. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. We were both virgins and 5 months into the relationship we had sex. He seemed fine with it, but we haven't since. He's afraid of sex. He'll lead me on constantly, but never actually follow through. It's so frustrating and it makes me feel bad about myself a lot. It doesn't matter what I do or say.. He will not have sex with me anymore. It's put a huge strain on our relationship and anytime I want to talk about it, he doesn't wanna hear it. I'm completely at a loss. It's been well over a year and a half since we have and I've pretty much given up. I'm at the point now that if we do have sex again it won't feel right. Like there's nothing to it because I just forced him. And when we don't I always feel like there's something wrong with me.. Like I'm not good enough to make him want to. Another part of me just wants to cut him off completely for any sexual activity in the relationship until things get resolved. It's not fair to me. I get a birth control shot (more effective than the pill) and he always wants to use condoms so I don't see what the big deal is with him. I don't want to give up on us but I'm not sure how long we can't keep this up. I think it's sad when the girl in the relationship is the one begging for sex or any like-affection. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've pretty much given up hope. I don't even like to talk about the subject with him or anyone.. It still makes me so upset.
October 10, 2015 - 7:35amThis Comment
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