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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. We were very sexually active for the first three and I was on birth control. For the last year, I have stopped taking birth control because we haven't been having sex. At first I thought it was something wrong with me or we just weren't on the same rhythm anymore because when we did have sex it felt a little off. Lately he has expressed a lot of concern for our nations safety and has been talking about how he hates that people are having babies like crazy and doesn't want to have a child in the world we live in today. Last night, he told me he wants nothing to do with penetration and that is has nothing to do with me. He told me we can go to a sex shop and get toys and things of that nature to use for now. I have never used any of those things so I feel like I'm in the dark in this situation. He said he feels that we both have grade A genes and wants to freeze some of his sperm and get a vasectomy and then we can have all the sex we want and when the time is right we can bring a child into the world. I don't want a child right now either (I'm only 23!) But I do want to feel intimate with him. He is afraid of what is going to happen in the future and all of what he is saying is very overwhelming. I am going to try what I can and see how I feel but I just feel so lost and unwanted in a way. I don't know if I am actually requesting advice or anything I just needed to express what I am feeling right now anonymously so there you have it